Calif. Mom uses drugs dad wants custody
My son and his ex were using drugs. He got cought and has been in a program for 18 months. All of the counseling he has had, has made him realize he does not want drugs in his life. His girlfriend told him she would stop using. Well she got pregnant. She wouldn't go to the doctor until she was 7 months and on her 1st visit she tested positive for methamphetamines. She claims is was meds. The doctor give her but disappeared for days and didn't go back and retest for 15 days. That test came back clean and she says that is proof the 1st one was wrong.
My son went to CPS, the DA, and the police to try to get help, to get her into a treatment program. They all said the same thing, They couldn't do anything until the baby was born.
She called my son to take her to the hospital when she went into labor. She was in the hospital for 4 days and my son stayed with her most of the time. Went out and got her food as she didn't like the hospital food, that sort of thing. The whole time she was telling him she loved him and wanted them to be together as a family. They filled out the papers for the birth certificate, then she said she was too tired to sign them right then. On the 3rd day she had him come home and get all the things he had got for the baby ( car seat, stroller, clothes, diapers, blankets everything) said they would need it all at her house for the baby.
The 4th day he took her home with all the baby thing as well. Then she told him she wanted to rest and for him to go home for awhile. He thought that was strange but said OK. After a couple hours he called and she wouldn't talk to him so he decided to go there and see what was going on. When he got there CPS was there. She demanded he leave so she could talk to CPS alone. He didn't want to fight with her so he drove down the street and waited. When the CPS worker was leaving she stopped and told him she needed to talk to him the next day. During all this his ex's mother was having a fit because she didn't like the name they had picked for their daughter. The next day he found out that the CPS worker had been at the hospital with her while he was at home getting the baby things. She had told them she had everything she needed at home to take care of the baby. The CPS worker told my son he would have to do random drug testing and parenting classes and he had better get a restraining order to protect his self from the things that were being said about him. Later that day when he went to see her and his baby his ex told him the only reason CPS had came to the hospital was because he had reported her over the test when she was 7 months. Her mother said he was never allow in her house and would not let him see his child.
So he got the hospital records a few days later and found out the reason CPS was at the hospital was because she had tested positive for opiates and that his ex had gone back to the hospital and changed the birth certificate. She changed the babies name and took his name off.
He has filed for custody and when they went to meditation she claimed he had positive drug test ( he had court proof that is a lie) that she has never been in trouble in her life ( he has proof that is a lie a court record for possession) Every thing she say about him he can prove is a lie, yet no one will listen to him or look at the proof he has against her. She told the meditator that he is racist against her kids from her former husband because they are half Spanish and wouldn't listen to him when he tried to tell them he loves the kids and his been taking care of them for 2 years.
The CPS worker is also Spanish and we are sure the ex told her this story as well ( in Spanish no less ) because when my son went back to talk to the CPS worker she was very hostile to him and after he left, called his ex and told her every thing he said.
It seems no one will look at the court documents he has but will believe everything she says without question.
Another thing that is really troubling is that when her 3 year old was born CPS took the child away from her because of drugs. She claims the father made a false report, how ever we have no idea how to get a copy of that or if it is even possible to.
She lives with her mother and 36 year old brother ( who has records for drug use and possession and Assault with a firearm while on drugs (more court records no one will look at). They live in a 3 bedroom house and all 3 adults have a room so the kids have to sleep in their rooms. We know her 3 year old daughter sleeps in the bed with her mother and her 5 year old son and 2 month old baby sleep in the bed with her. I have no idea what CPS was told about this but there are no other beds in the house.
We would be very thankful for ANY advice or help we could get. Any information on a wed site with in formation.
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