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SecyFox · Oct 23, 2007, 10:49 AM

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My name is Liz and I was wanting someone to tell me what to do about an abuseive lover that I'm getting ready to divorce. In 6 months I'll be getting my divorce and I'm not sure what to do I've only been married 6 months. Should I go back and try to work it all out, and try to understand why he does the things he does or leave him high and dry with the fact he's missing his lover girl? Me and him where so right for each other till his anger over rode him, he's also bipoler and I don't know Someone HELP me and give me some advice! Please!

N0help4u · Oct 23, 2007, 11:03 AM

Get out ASAP especially if he is doing drugs. BiPolar and drug addiction just DON'T mix at all and they will make him even more unpredictable. BiPolars can be so clever and conning to the extent that if he knows you are planning to leave he will put on his best behavior until you feel like "how can I leave him?" Then once he feels he has you wrapped around his finger once again Mr. Evil emerges again.

momtofour · Oct 24, 2007, 09:45 AM

Hmm. You said that he was abusive? Is he on medication for his bipolar? Have you tried counseling? Is he a drinker or drug abuser? Have you sat him down and had a serious discussion about his actions and how it makes you feel? What was his reaction?

I have been married for less than 10 years. My husband got pissed off one night because the TV was on so he went and picked up the TV and threw it to the ground. He then kicked me out of bed and smashed my head on the dresser. I should have left him then. Unfortunately a far worse incident took place a year later. I had him move out and he hasn't been back since. No man is worth losing your esteem over. If he is abusive towards you, that does not fix itself, never will, unless he gets serious about his life and his marriage. If he doesn't agree to joint counseling, get the H**L out.