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    Oct 13, 2005, 12:48 PM
    Is it harassment
    My fiancé works in a restaurant and her manager stands on top of her makes her feel uncomfertable and he has made other girls there very self conscious ( staring at there chest). She reported the problem of him being this way and her other managers said they didn't see it so it didn't happen. He has made himself to be close so she will have ot bump into him she feels helpless and I am just wondering about some other opions I ma thinking of contacting a laywer but I would like some input. Thank you Ryan
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    Oct 13, 2005, 01:43 PM
    If this is obvious enough for customers to notice, then ask some of your friends to stop by sometime, or go there now and then yourself and just observe the situation yourself. This way, there will be independent witnesses to the abusive behaviour of this jerk. Either that, or if your g/f has a handy with a camera, have her snap a closeup of his actions and show the boss.
    http://www.mywiseowl.com/articles/Sexual_harassment Start with this site to get a little better informed. Good Luck.
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    Oct 13, 2005, 08:01 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by rmanley
    My fiance works in a resturant and her manager stands on top of her makes her feel uncomfertable and he has made other girls there very self concious ( staring at there chest). She reported the problem of him being this way and her other managers said they didnt see it so it didnt happen. He has made himself to be close so she will have ot bump into him she feels helpless and i am just wondering about some other opions i ma thinking of contacting a laywer but i would like some input. Thank you Ryan
    No, I don't think it is enough to be considered as harassment. It will be very difficult to prove it in the court. Harassment laws have gotten a lot tougher for employees to prove it.
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    Oct 13, 2005, 09:50 PM
    CLASS ACTION LAWSUIT! Get at least 10 willing people to come forward and give a statement. There is strength in numbers.
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    Oct 13, 2005, 10:41 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by letmeno
    CLASS ACTION LAWSUIT!! Get at least 10 willing people to come forward and give a statement. There is strength in numbers.
    They will have to clearly quantify the damage done by the guy. Even if they win, lawyers get most of the money on class action suit. Then again, lawyers are smart enough NOT to take "peanut" cases.

    I hope I didn't offend lawyer members here. If I did, yeah, so sue me. :D
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    Oct 14, 2005, 02:22 AM
    That's why involvement of others to back it up is important. There are also online law sites that can help with advice.
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    Oct 14, 2005, 04:31 AM
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    Hi,
    This does sound like harassment. Talk with a lawyer. The point of talking with a lawyer is to get some professional advice. Your actions probably will not be to "win over" a lot of money, but to just get the person(s) to stop what they are doing.
    You can also do some research on the web, using a search engine, like google.com, typing in "workplace harassment", without quotes.
    Best of luck,
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    Oct 14, 2005, 10:45 AM
    Well it is not like we want money this man is a pervert he is in his 40's and he stalks girls in their teens he said to another male co worker who was serving some 15 old girls who are his age and he was making plans to meet up with them later and this manager said that he would help him take care off them and winked to me it isn't about money but getting this man away from these girls he has already had a complaint about him and nothing was done the instance was he was fixing a tie on a 15 year old girls uniform and he pulled her shirt out to see down it
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    Oct 14, 2005, 11:40 AM
    Then please check the link in post 2 in this thread, and get advice. I did not think that you were out for money, just need to teach men like him that this is not correct behavior. Good Luck.
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    Oct 31, 2005, 10:46 PM
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    Why would you continue to let your fiancé to work there? Id pull her out of there in a New York minute There's got to be other places to work with better uniforms and better working conditions.
    How do you keep from walking up and clobbering the a **hole? ranieri
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    Nov 1, 2005, 08:06 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by ranieri
    Why would you continue to let your fiance to work there? Id pull her out of there in a New York minute Theres got to be other places to work with better uniforms and better working conditions.
    How do you keep from walking up and clobbering the a **hole? ranieri
    This is also a good point and I would seriously think of this as an option, depending on the job market in your area. Wish you lots of luck and please keep us posted.

    P.S. I still think that people like him need a lesson or two, but a job change afterwards will put you both in a less stressful phase in your lives.
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    Nov 1, 2005, 08:08 AM
    If you are in the US a good web site for legal advice is: http://www.nolo.com/index.cfm
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