I lost my girlfriend 14 months ago, after a relation of 6 years. Without no reason (did not know) she ended it.
She broke up and I had no idea why, I called her, sms, e-mail, etc... She did not wanted to talk with me, if she talked with me she did not answer my questions, etc...
I wrote her long letter telling her that I realized that I made mistakes, I asked her to marry, I tried it all. THE MORE I TRIED THE WORSE IT BECAME.
3 months later I was still trying and I had no results yet. The I found information on the web.
The advice was totally different then all the things I did BUT it worked!!
The main thing is to leave them alone, don't call, don't write, NOTHING, this is the clue.
I did this, it was very hard and a friend of mine did helped me, each time I wanted to call her, I talked to him and he told me to continue with the "strategy"
1 month later she did call me herself, all of the sudden I got a call from her and she was friendly, she asked me if I could do something for her, anyway , it was just an excuse to call me.
If you want your girlfriend back, stop having contact with her, don't send her letters, no gifts or flowers, LEAVE HER ALONE!!!!!!!!!!
Here is the site I found the information :
http://www.exgirlfriendguru.com
(It is not a free program, you don't have to pay, you can find a lot information for free and subscribe to the newsletter, that send you lot of free advice. I bought it because I wanted to do something fast. I'm happy I did because it comes with a 1 hour audio that helped me through the bad moments)
I did follow the advice, I made the phonecall short (even it is hard to do but you should give her the feeling that you have more important things to do)
Since then she was on the phone every day for at least 1/2 hour (we live far appart)
I even went to her one day, she was kind and nice (DON'T TALK ABOUT THE PAST!! JUST BE FRIENDS)
She even offered me to spend the night there , I was so stupid to say no (I had pain that she was friendly but did not talked about what I wanted to talk about) so I left.
She still kept calling for all kind of things.
Then I made a huge mistake! I told her I didn't wanted her to call me anymore (I thought she was like before again and by me saying that that she would feel bad for me)
Anyway, she said it was stupid not to stay in contact but I said it was better. The day after she called me back and like nothing happened she was talking all the time about her work and friends,etc...
I was stupid again and said that I told her that I didn't want to talk with her anymore.
Since then I messed all up. I DID NOT FOLLOW THE ADVICE ALL THE WAY.
DON'T MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE AS I!!!! LEAVE HER ALONE AND WHEN SHE STARTS TO CONTACT YOU, JUST BE CHEARFULL AND KIND TO HER, SHE WILL FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU (don't try to make her fall BACK in love with you, she should start to love you like it was the first time, HAVE PATIENCE!!!!!)
Now it's 14 months later and I feel so stupid that I started to get her back and that I messed it up.