[aubreesmama1]

So.. I am 14 about to be 15 in 5 days and me and my boyfriend want a baby.
I don't need put downs people I juss need advice.
We have had a miscarriage cz the baby grew in the wrong tube but, my mom made me get on the depo-shot and I have been on it for about 4 months and I go back for my next injection in November but, I think I am going to talk to my mom about it because I gained SOOOOOOOO much weight.
Bt how do I talk to my mom without her thinking anything?
&& how long will it take for me to get pregnant? We are willing to wait but we are curious how long! Don't lie people please!

[nauticalstar420]

For someone as young as you, pregnancy has a possibility of being dangerous. Your body is not yet prepared for carrying a baby.

If your mom knows you want to have a baby, she will probably think you want to try again if you ask to get off depo.

[automansgirl]

Wow! You have so much living to do before thinking about a baby! I know you are thinking you've heard it all before and don't want to hear it again, but you really are too young to have a baby. It can be very harmful to your health physically and mentally! Stay on Depo, regardless of the weight gain. If the weight gain is that big a deal go exercise. And just so you know... it can take 18 months or more to get pregnant after stopping depo. Take your time and at least wait until you are of legal age to vote before thinking about having a baby. How would you support it? I doubt your mom wants to be responsible for a baby. More than likely if you got pregnant you wouldn't finish school. You certainly can't get a good job without an education. Just think about it. Why do you want to have a baby? How old is your boyfriend?

[J_9]

Let's look at it this way... Just some perspective for you, okay?

A 15 year old has a higher incidence of miscarriage, low birth weight babies, PIH (Pregnancy induced hypertension) that can be EXTREMELY dangerous to mother and baby, and premature delivery, among many other problems.

Now, we have the baby. If born low birth weight, that comes with a load of problems itself, some can be permanent. If born premature death can be a possibility and if the infant lives you run serious risks of developmental delays and/or mental retardation.

Babies born to teens also have a higher incidence of being abused as well as a very high possibility of SIDS.

Your mother is doing the right thing for you. You are NOT ready to be a parent. Babies are not there to love mommy, babies are work, and 21 years down the road (when you are only 36) your children are STILL work.

Babies are all about ME ME ME, not love, not cuddling. Do you have the patience for being up all night with a sick infant who is crying inconsolably then go to school and take a biology test? Nah, you aren't ready for that, no one is. Who is going to buy the diapers? Pay for doctors, hospitals?