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devilzadvocate · Sep 12, 2007, 12:56 PM

I am still in live with my ex who's now my best friend.. She wants nothing do with me anymore amd our relationship became a great friendship.. But I'm still crazy about her but she assures me nothing will occur between us because she's not attracted to me anymore.. But our friendship is still beyond a friendshi and I don't think anyone will understand her quite like I do.. I wish she would realize I'm the one.. Help? I know I treated her like and I wish I was given a second chance..! What should I do?

Ash123 · Sep 12, 2007, 01:43 PM

If you want another chance you only can do one thing.

GO AWAY.

She will not respond to you in the current dynamic.

Tell her this isn't working for you and cut ALL contact. The only way to raise your stock. Really.
The FRIEND ZONE is where girls want all their Ex's... Until they realize the guy has moved on or isn't interested in such things.
Tough luck I Know... But she has been honest with you. Now, be honest with her. This doesn't work for you.

How old are you?

How long did you go out?

Are you her best friend?

Peace

Zell · Sep 12, 2007, 02:41 PM

Originally Posted by Ash123

The FRIEND ZONE is where girls want all their Ex's...Until they realize the guy has moved on or isn't interested in such things.

Its so true, dude don't let her play with you like this, no one deserves to be treated as a back up. Best thing to do is to stop contact with her. She might just reilise what she's lost. But don't get your hopes up.
Good luck!

talaniman · Sep 12, 2007, 04:57 PM

She wants nothing do with me anymore amd our relationship became a great friendship..

You had a good time, and now its over. Accept this and move on.

devilzadvocate · Sep 13, 2007, 07:59 PM

I Have Been Going Out With Her For 5 Months And We Are Best Friends... she Went Out With Some Other Guy After Me For 2 1/2 Months And I Think She Fell For Him.. it's So Difficult To Cut Contact Because We Have A Lot Of The Same Friends And It Would Be Impossible... I Think I Will Not Respond Some Her Calls?

mckenzie134 · Sep 13, 2007, 09:01 PM

You can still ahng with friends but no longer take her calls just don't answer it's that simple if she calls late at night don't answer you no longer have a responsibility to her so just ignore her when she rings and if she says something telll her you were busy...

vivia12 · Sep 14, 2007, 02:33 PM

I'm going through the same thing Dev,if you read my post the hardest thing is not letting gthem contact you which is what I'm learning

Ash123 · Sep 14, 2007, 05:46 PM

Unless you don't care - you must fight your way out of the Friend Zone.

Alpha-males need to be followed. Be nice. Be fair. Be yourself. But... be gone.

Jiser · Sep 15, 2007, 12:03 PM

Drop her! After a while she will fade into a distant memory. Thatll teach her!

Don't speak to her NO MORE! Block her, don't tell her your doing it, just drop of the face of the earth.

nkychic · Sep 15, 2007, 12:12 PM

I hate to say it, but what everyone is saying is true. She has you right where she wants you. As long as she knows you are still hanging on, she's got a "backup" (for lack of better word). She knows you will ALWAYS be there no matter what happens, so what is there left to fight for. Why not move on knowing you can always go back. Don't give her that. Tell her you care for her, but you don't want to be just friends. Tell her that a friendship with her is only hurting you because you know it can't be anymore. She will tell you that if you cared you'd wait for her, or that you are ruining any chance for you all to get back together... DON"T LISTEN! Tell her you are going to have to take that risk and walk away! Don't look back or you'll forever be in her shadow and the shadow of the person she chooses to be with. Just keep walking! The only way you can move on and be happy is to do just that, Move On!

Good luck and I hope everything works out for you. I know it's hard, but you have to look out for your best interest. Obviously the pain and heartache she causes isn't love.

s_cianci · Sep 15, 2007, 01:37 PM

The others have said it all. Get out of the "Friend zone" and stay out. Even if you have a lot of common friends and acquaintances, keep your interactions with her minimal and strictly for the sake of cordiality and nothing more. Let her see that you've moved on and can have a good time without her in your life.

devilzadvocate · Sep 15, 2007, 03:11 PM

Thank you all for your advice... it will be taken into account... I don't call her as much... it's down to a minimal and I will no longer try to get back with her.. she made it clear that we'll never go back together and she sees me only as a friend... but her actions at times shows other wise... I will will just lay low... if you love someone you let it go, if it comes back it's yours, if not... it was never meant to be... =)

Ash123 · Sep 15, 2007, 03:40 PM

If friendship helps for now keep going... but be careful, you are her safe buddy, and watching her date others may be tough... but if you can do it, more power to you.