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    Sep 3, 2007, 06:40 PM
    Step-Daughter w/ STD wants to take baths with my son
    Hi,
    I have a step-daughter, age 19 who's got HPV (aka genital warts).
    She wants to be able to take baths with my son, who's only 7.

    I say absolutely not, it's not worth the risk of his catching HPV.

    My hubby says I'm just being hateful against his daughter.

    Nothing I've read on the web deals with anything like this, unfortunately. Any professional opinions out there? I don't care to hear about the "Immorality" of a 19 year old young woman bathing with a 7 year old boy, that's not the issue here.

    Thank you
    GreyRaven

    *Edit* Religious Freaks will be ignored.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 06:45 PM
    Tell me exactly why a 19 year old girl would want to take a bath with a 7 year old boy?

    NO FREAKING WAY!!

    **EDIT** STD or not, she is WAY too old to be taking a bath with a young child. This borders on child abuse and perversion
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    Sep 3, 2007, 06:49 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by greyraven
    I don't care to hear about the "Immorality" of a 19 year old young woman bathing with a 7 year old boy, that's not the issue here.

    Thank you
    GreyRaven
    Unfortunately it IS the issue here!!

    If this is allowed and the 7 year old brings it up at school she can be arrested, and you can be charged as well.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 06:49 PM
    j9 could she be contagious right before an outbreak? *edit* I was thinking of herpes, it isn't the same thing is it?
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    Sep 3, 2007, 06:52 PM
    Yes, she could. One does not need an outbreak to be contagious.

    But the issue at hand is a 19 year old GIRL wanting to take a bath with a 7 year old BOY!!

    All parties save the 7 year old boy, could get in some major trouble if this is allowed.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 06:52 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by bushg
    j9 could she be contagious right before an outbreak?
    Yes, my point exactly. How would she know if she's contagious?

    My son caught chicken-pox at a community play center and then gave my hubby shingles before he showed symptoms of Chicken Pox. To this day, hubby thinks he gave our son the chicken pox (eyeroll).

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    Sep 3, 2007, 06:54 PM
    Genital warts are very contaigous and most likely will get them from that close of contact.

    But honest to god, the warts are not the issue, the morality of a 7 year old boy bathing with a 19 year old girl, is the biggest issue, If parents were allowing this, CPS could easily take that 7 year old out of the house for the child's own protection.

    If the mom is having an issue only because of the warts, there is more serious issues to deal with.

    Also bushg, genital warts don't "breakout" like other transferred STD, they are always there and they spread very easy, and they can move to other areas, under arms, under chin.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 06:55 PM
    This coming from a woman who thinks that women = human toilets?

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...tml#post282131

    My question is why you would even think that this is appropriate.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 06:59 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck
    genital warts don't "breakout" like other transfered STD,
    Sorry Chuck, I have to disagree with you again. Genital Warts, (herpes), do break out on occasion. They are always there, but breakouts occur frequently unless medicated.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 07:00 PM
    OMG the stupidity here is so sad, why do I bother?

    Sometimes people have difficult issues. A place like this is where one can discuss them, not be abused for having a shockingly unpleasant thing happen to them/idea occur to them. You obviously think differently.

    GR
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    Sep 3, 2007, 07:01 PM
    Lady I do not profess religion of any type. But I will say that I would not let any 19 year old sister bath with my 7 year old son. I wouldn't care what my husband or anyone else says it is not right. I think most people feel this way.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 07:03 PM
    greyraven disagrees: I'm not interested in your take on morality, only on the medical science of the situation
    I am not going to give you a medical answer because this is morally wrong!! I refuse to put myself in the place of the sexual predator such as your step-daughter.

    She has some major freaking issues if she wants to take a bath with a 7 year old. Time for some counseling.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 07:03 PM
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    Another peanut-gallery heckler
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    Sep 3, 2007, 07:04 PM
    Hell, I won't even bathe with my 5 year old son and I am his MOTHER, for crying out loud.

    Apparently this so called step-sister has some sexual issues that need to be dealt with or you will find CPS at your door taking your son away from you.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 07:06 PM
    HMM, we may think differently, but I think we are the ones thinking CLEARLY here.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 07:09 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by greyraven
    OMG the stupidity here is so sad, why do I bother?

    Sometimes people have difficult issues. A place like this is where one can discuss them, not be abused for having a shockingly unpleasant thing happen to them/idea occur to them. You obviously think differently.

    GR
    Difficult issues!? You should be reported to the authorities! If the age difference is no issue to you, YOU need help, too.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 07:10 PM
    I don't know about the problem of the boy catching anything from the girl but I do know that if he does bath with her and the kids at school find out they will think he is the luckiest kid in the whole school system. And they will be so envious of him they will cry.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 07:11 PM
    j9, bushg, and fr_chuck, good job. I think you answered very well. There is some deep lying issues here that need to be addressed. No I am not a head shrink, but I have had some child behavior classes that tell of such situations. Most of the time the situations occur from someone that was done that way when they were younger. Not only is this a moral issue, but a legal issue.
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    Sep 3, 2007, 07:12 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by greyraven
    OMG the stupidity here is so sad, why do I bother?
    Of course, you could go away... Never Never Land is looking for it's sign...
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    Sep 3, 2007, 07:13 PM
    Genital Warts

    It is a virus, and can come back even if treated but it is not the same as herpes ( unless medically it is classified as it, but I have never seen it referred to as it)

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