If you've been on here a bit, you may have seen the post I created to help all the people who'd been put into breakup hell: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...sh-114179.html
NC is still truly the breakees best tool, but the question arises - at what point do I "take my shot" ?? i.e. If they contact me, but I do not contact back, what do I do? Or if you really think your love needs to be put out there one last time -what do you do?
Well, as always LESS is MORE. DO nothing to get something: A response or closure.
Still, there is one thing to try that I have tried and tested with positive results on a couple special occasions: The NC Grenade.
It's a one-time only break of NC that let's you put one major thing out there to clear your conscience and ensure that both sides can clear their heads.
I recommend it for someone with at least 1 1/2 years under their belt, and only if it's for a very serious relationship... monogamous, adult relationships (often over 25), for those who want to get married or continue an exclusive and mutually responsible relationship.
The NC Grenade can be tossed after 2 months. It should reference anything you wish you'd said or needed to be said at the time of the break, that was lost in the shuffle. This should not be followed with anything else. It doesn't hurt to mix in some humor if appropriate amid the earnest subject IF appropriate. It is short and sweet and references one subject.
If there is a response, respond back. See where it goes. Be brief. NEVER EVER EVER NEVER try to manipulate after that. Just be honest.
BE WARNED: A break in NC can result in lost time of recovery and relapse in healing. Only do this if you feel the pain cannot outweigh the need to clear the air one time. And understand that a polite response does not mean an invitation to reuinite.
If the breaker ever breaks NC the only time to respond is if it is an apology, a need to cover something new, a request to go forward.
If the response is neutral and deflecting... Silence is the only answer from there on.
Hope this helps a little with the insanity of heartbreak today and tomorrow.