[jjhka]

All right basically, I have been dating this girl for 6 months. Not too long, but long anough to set in a hurtful mood for me. My ex decided to spread a rumor about me that I cheated on my current girl at the time with her which never happened, but regardless it never settles into her. Finally she believed me, and needed some time to think things through. Understandable. After about a week we started hanging out again. Our trust came back and everytthing was good. Now all of the suddedn she wants a break, and this is because she said she thought a lot and she doesn't want to be tied down. This pissed me off cause never was she tied down and never did I do anythig to keep her from her life. So I met up with her and explained the whole thing and all she had to say I don't know. Well that doesn't cut it for me. This is a girl I care about a lot and I know she cares a lot too. A break will only spread us further apart... the more time we spend together, the better and closer we will become. She is very indepndant, and giving her too much time by herself lets her create certain ridiculous scenarios in her own head of things like "what if i go back" and she continuously pulls the bad out of the future. Rather then following her heart it seems as if she's following her moronic friends opinions who don't know the story at all and her head. I know she wants to be together but how do I pull it out of her without being to pushy? The main thing is that I want her to learn to live a little and not worry so much. Any help would be thankful.

[chuff]

I don't think she was ever that into you, as much as you were into her.

I think this whole thing with the ex probably didn't help, but I'm not so sure if the results wouldn't have been the same. I think she may use this as a reason to get out, but I think she was headed that way anyway.

[talaniman]

Chuff is right as you seem much more emotionally invested as she is, and maybe that's the problem, you want a lot more than she is ready to give you.

I know she wants to be together but how do I pull it out of her without being to pushy?

You can't pull anything out of anyone, and if you try, they will pull back. You should back off this one, and recognise that the relationship isn't very healthy, or strong enough to stand up against rumors or egos. Sorry, I think your wasting time trying to change her mind, or attitude.

[nicespringgirl]

You are in love with the IDEA, don't hold the IDEA, face the fact.