[still_holding_on]

:confused: I miscarried what would have been my first child late in my pregnancy. Her room was already set up and decorated. After I lost her I was able to adopt a beautiful baby boy who is now 7 months old. I am now in the process of another adoption, (open adoption of a baby girl through a friend) and the baby is due in 3 months. My house has 3 bedrooms: mine, my sons, and the room that was for the child I lost. Since I'm still haunted by the loss of my first baby would it be a bad idea to use that room for the little girl I'm trying to adopt? I still sleep on the floor of that room sometimes when I get really upset. I'm not sure if it would be healing for me to finally have my daughter in that room, or if it would just make the pain worse. Does anyone have any experience with this sort of thing or any advise? The other option is the baby girl sharing my room or my sons room which seems stupid when I have a fully decorated girls bedroom.

[GlindaofOz]

I don't think it would be a bad idea at all. Do you plan to leave this room as a shrine to this child forever? Putting the new beautiful baby girl in there will not be betraying the memory of the baby you lost. Bringing a new life into your home can only make it better, happier and more joyful.

I think you already know what you want to do and are just looking for permission to do so. I say go for it. You can always keep the memory of that beautiful child alive in your heart.