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B Merc · Aug 7, 2007, 02:09 PM

I have found the most amazing person I have ever meet in my life so far. I met her at work about a month and a half ago, but at the time she had just got into a relationship with someone else. For the last month we have been texting and talking all the time. Not one day goes by that I don't talk to her and not one minute goes by that I don't think about her. She is the only woman I have found that actually cares about me for who I truly am. She broke up with her boyfriend last week so I've started to show how much I care about her. The problem is that she keeps saying that she doesn't want to hurt me and that she isn't want I really want. Every time I see her I always instantly feel better no matter what is going on and every time she smiles at me it feels as if my life is almost complete. I really want to be with her, but I have no clue what I should do.

jrb252000 · Aug 7, 2007, 02:14 PM

I think she may need space since she just got out of a relationship. She seems to have her mind made up that she isn't intrested in you than more than a friend. If you want to continue the friendship it may one day develop into something more but at this point I would look for someone else.

B Merc · Aug 7, 2007, 02:21 PM

I've been avoiding smothering her because I understand that coming out of a relationship isn't easy. She has been hurt a few times in the past with cheating boyfriends and guys lying to her. She had said many times while her boyfriend and her were together that she really wanted to be with me because he wasn't treating her like she wanted. I think she is trying to avoid being in another painful relationship, but I don't know how to prove to her that I would never do anything to hurt her.

J_9 · Aug 7, 2007, 02:23 PM

I have to agree with JRB, here. Also, it takes time for love to develop. A month really doesn't cut it. I mean what do you really know about her?

Does she take a shower or a bath? Horror movies or Romance?

Love truly happens over time, many months, sometimes years. At this point it is infatuation and the prospect of her is exciting to you. If she has feelings she will come to you, but don't be a rebound relationship to her, it wouldn't be fair to either one of you.

jrb252000 · Aug 7, 2007, 02:28 PM

My advice then would be to just continue the friendship and see if it develops into anything. Trust builds with time. Good luck.

B Merc · Aug 7, 2007, 02:32 PM

I know that love takes time to develop. I know I'm not in love with her yet, but she has yet to say a single thing to disappoint me. I've never told any person in my life other than my parents that I love them. Love is a true feeling that you can only know truly when it happens only based on feelings.

She takes showers normally and bubble bathes when she has extra time while not working(usually tries once a week). She loves romantic movies, but she doesn't mind seeing a scary movie as long as she has someone to hold on to when she gets scared. Her favorite food is pasta, her favorite color is pink, she has the prettiest blue/green eyes I have seen. Her father is her role model man. I could go on forever it seems.

I'm just confused as to whether I should continue to show affection or back off and let her progress the relationship as she wants.

jrb252000 · Aug 7, 2007, 02:37 PM

I feel it should be up to her to pursue the relationship. She needs time to get over this last one and to figure out what she wants. I would contiue having a friendship with her and after sometime see if she sends you some signs.