[storm71k]

Hi every couple has their own story and I don't want to make it more detailed and I'm trying to make it real short. My boyfriend and I has plenty ups and downs like any other couple and we had so many break ups that always end up getting together again and trying to sort thing out again. One time when we were having arguments and we had a talk he mentioned to me that he knows that I have so much love to offer but he feels like it wasn't what he wants. I have a hard time understanding and when I got some clues I refused to think of it. You guys out there can you give me some more ideas why he feels like it. Does it means he doesn't really love me or if he does it is already disappearing? We've been together for almost three years now. And I really love him. Hes everything to me. And he often told me that our relationship is boring and I am boring sometimes. Does it means I've been expressing too much love and emotions?

[wizzkid89]

He probably does love you, but the relationship might have gotten stale between you. He is likely just getting frustrated with same old same old, and there isn't really much you can about that. If I were you, I would ask him whether he is committed to you, because you don't deserve to give him all this love and to not have those feelings reciprocated 100%. So my advice is you confront up front on how he is feeling, and you to try to air it out together.

[talaniman]

The next time he says things are boring then ask him for his solution. We all run into a stone wall evry now and then and what defines a relationship is working together to resolve your issues through honest communication. One partner, or the other, cannot keep things going, so work together.

[s_cianci]

Some more specifics would be helpful. What actual issues do you seem to disagree on? The fact that he's said the relationship is "boring" and that you're "boring" offers one clue. That seems to suggest that you're smothering him, being overly clingy and needy. I think you should back off a little and give him some space. Don't call or text so often. Don't see him so often. Take some time out for yourself and your other friends and even date some other men. Give him a breather and let him miss you for a while. You might start getting more of his attention after you do. If not, then you'll know where you stand.