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XMouse · Jul 30, 2007, 03:21 PM

Im currently spending some time with a guy I meet through friends.
He is 19 and I am 16- is this too much of a gap ?
He is out working and living his life and I am still in high school.
The other half of it was that he was married at 18 to a girl and 4 5 months after they got pregnant. They are now divorced.
So he also has a son.
Are there just to many things up against this working with him ?

nauticalstar420 · Jul 30, 2007, 03:25 PM

To me, that is not a big gap at all. 3 years doesn't seem like a big deal to me. However, depending on what state you live in, sex could be illegal if you got caught.

Do you know the reason him and his wife got divorced? If it was because of something he did/said, this could be a factor on whether you want to date him. Just because someone is divorced does not mean they are undatable. You might want to look into why he got divorced though.

To me, the fact that he has a son is no big deal either. I have dated men that have kids, and they were usually wonderful kids. They may have bad feelings about you at first, thinking you are trying to replace their mommy, but they usually come around. Having kids also does not make someone undatable. :)

XMouse · Jul 30, 2007, 03:38 PM

No- I love his son, sweetest kid ever.
He says it was never quiet right with his girlfriend/Wife and having the baby[stress] just made thing worse.

nauticalstar420 · Jul 30, 2007, 03:40 PM

If it was a mutual break up between him and his wife, that is not his fault and shouldn't be held against him dating wise. It sounds to me like it would be an okay relationship :)

XMouse · Jul 30, 2007, 03:46 PM

Thank you for helping me out!

nauticalstar420 · Jul 30, 2007, 03:46 PM

You're welcome! :)

XMouse · Jul 30, 2007, 04:08 PM

Any other opinions ?

jrb252000 · Jul 30, 2007, 04:18 PM

I would say follow your heart but since you are still in high school you may have a conflict of interest. You want to hang out with friends/study or go to a dance. He may not be into that (to tired from work and having a kid). It seems since he got another girl pregnant and they got married that he is an honorable man (and they divorce on friendly terms). I would take it one day at a time and see where it goes.

XMouse · Jul 30, 2007, 04:19 PM

The baby was a surprise but they where married before.

Canada_Sweety · Jul 30, 2007, 04:25 PM

Your age gap is barely a gap.. it's a crack. I say go for it:)

klovesj110603 · Jul 30, 2007, 04:25 PM

Yea follow your heart and see were it takes u. but I would be careful because you are under 18 it might be illigal. But most of the time if your parents aprove it is OK. He seems like a good guy. Like they said you are still in school and it maybe hard at times to see eye to eye because you are just now getting ready for the real world. But keep your heart open and do what it tells you anything is possible and you have the world at your feet.