"Out of Love" Drama, Where to Go when Still Together?
I'll try my best to keep this brief, as reading these forums has, if anything, only reinforced my belief that my situation is not as unique, at least in theory, as I once thought it to be.
My and my girlfriend are approaching our 4th year together in a few months. If I do say so myself, I've been a very solid boyfriend - never violent, never mean/jealous/spiteful, and even rarely did we argue. However, it has come up that, as it is 'recently' - "..I love you, but I don't know if I'm in love with you anymore".
This happened about a week ago - when it did, I left for a drive around, came back, and we didn't say much. The next day, we continued on as if the conversation didn't happen. We've had a substantial increase in sex since - daily up to 3 times a day. However, in the back of my mind, I keep thinking, dwelling on what she had said. It makes me physically ill to think of what it means, especially when I want to be planning a future together, marriage, etc. Even last night, we glossed over the topic of wedding rings - how confused I am!
So here I am, with my question(s). What to do? Should I leave her? Wait for her to leave me? Perhaps play cool and see where this goes? Not talking about it seems like a bad idea, but has also kept things great since. I love her to death, and would never leave her, but what do I do when I can't know she loves me?
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