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Jul 27, 2007, 06:57 PM
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What do I do if I want to dump a girl:confused:
I don't know
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Jul 27, 2007, 07:23 PM
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Let her know the truth-- if it's been α long relαtionship 6 months+ let it to her down slow..
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Jul 27, 2007, 07:33 PM
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It all depends on how long you have been together and how attached she is to you. Letting her down easy is the best way to go though.
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Jul 28, 2007, 10:33 AM
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Either way if she has feelings for you then no matter what you do, it will hurt her.
The best thing to do would be to identify why you want to break up. Then tell it to her straightforward.
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Jul 28, 2007, 10:39 AM
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You be honest and straight forward. You can simply say that the relationship is not working, because you feel it is not. If you have reasons, state them but do not go out of your way to be mean or hateful. Breakups are hard enough without adding to them.
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Jul 31, 2007, 06:19 AM
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Originally Posted by mayela
what do i do if i wanna dump a girl:confused:
i dont know
Do it in person. Be honest but not hurtful. Allow her some time to absorb what you're saying. Most of all, don't say you want to "stay friends" if in fact you don't!
How To Break Up With Someone: Saying Goodbye to Your Partner
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Jul 31, 2007, 06:40 AM
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Originally Posted by mayela
what do i do if i wanna dump a girl:confused:
i dont know
There is know easy way.
What has worked for me is this: Have her start an argument with you that gets you really mad. You won't feel as guilty to walk away if you are angry with her.
Tell the truth I read someone say? No girl will ever tell a guy the truth when she is done with a relationship. Women can be very cold hearted when they meet that "hot new guy." Believe me, I have been there many times...
DUMP HER!!
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Jul 31, 2007, 07:20 AM
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[QUOTE=Superfed]There is know easy way.
What has worked for me is this: Have her start an argument with you that gets you really mad. You won't feel as guilty to walk away if you are angry with her.
Tell the truth I read someone say? No girl will ever tell a guy the truth when she is done with a relationship. Women can be very cold hearted when they meet that "hot new guy." Believe me, I have been there many times...
DUMP HER!! [/QUOTE
Not all women are cold hearted... remember what goes around comes around. If she was going to dump you how would you like her to tell you?
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Survivor
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Jul 31, 2007, 08:12 AM
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Gentle Honesty.
Keep it short and sweet, no clichés, just be honest but kind. Tell her the reason, but no need to elaborate... but give her enough for closure so you can both move on. If you want to stay friends, say so, but only if you really mean it.
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Uber Member
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Jul 31, 2007, 09:27 AM
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Just give her the usual "Dear Jane" speech ; you know, something like "You're a nice girl, but this just isn't working out between us." If she insists on knowing why, tell her honestly but tactfully. Don't let yourself be made to feel guilty by her or anyone else.
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Jul 31, 2007, 10:27 AM
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That speech actually hurts more then you'd think...
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Jul 31, 2007, 11:37 AM
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Why would u like to dump her!
Let me know if she is a bad girl or good girl?
It's different depends on who she is...
Let me know then I'll think of the best way
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Jul 31, 2007, 02:45 PM
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[QUOTE=jrb252000]
Originally Posted by Superfed
There is know easy way.
What has worked for me is this: Have her start an argument with you that gets you really mad. You won't feel as guilty to walk away if you are angry with her.
Tell the truth I read someone say? No girl will ever tell a guy the truth when she is done with a relationship. Women can be very cold hearted when they meet that "hot new guy." Believe me, I have been there many times...
DUMP HER!!![/QUOTE
Not all women are cold hearted...remember what goes around comes around. If she was going to dump you how would you like her to tell you?
What goes around comes around? No one intentonaly breaks up with someone. If it isn't working out, it isn't working out.
The only reason a girl leaves a man is becauce they met someone else.
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Jul 31, 2007, 08:56 PM
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Originally Posted by s_cianci
Just give her the usual "Dear Jane" speech ; you know, something like "You're a nice girl, but this just isn't working out between us." If she insists on knowing why, tell her honestly but tactfully. Don't let yourself be made to feel guilty by her or anyone else.
Mayela asks: what do I do if I want to dump a girl?
DUMP was how he phrased it. Not a good attitude from the get go.
Why don't we ask why Mayela wants to DUMP his girlfriend before we can give any advice.
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Jul 31, 2007, 09:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Superfed
There is know easy way.
What has worked for me is this: Have her start an argument with you that gets you really mad. You won't feel as guilty to walk away if you are angry with her.
Tell the truth I read someone say? No girl will ever tell a guy the truth when she is done with a relationship. Women can be very cold hearted when they meet that "hot new guy." Believe me, I have been there many times...
DUMP HER!!!
Starting an argument I don't think that is sound advice but to each his own...
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Uber Member
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Aug 1, 2007, 05:56 AM
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"Dump" ; "break up with" ; all basically means the same thing. Let's not read too much into little words here and miss the forest for the trees. I'm sure his reasons for wanting to break up with her aren't personal, i.e. has nothing to do with her looks and personality. If she was really so unattractive and/or boring, he never would have gone out with her in the first place. That said, there's nothing wrong with him taking a somewhat vague and global approach in the interest of sparing her feelings, though she's bound to get a little wounded regardless, as typically happens when there's a break-up. A basic "it's not working out between us" or "we're just not compatible" are entirely appropriate. They're truthful statements yet without personalizing the issue. If he has indeed decided that he wants to break up with her then it's 100% true that they're not compatible ; otherwise he wouldn't want to break up with her. Now the reasons for the incompatibility can be as varied as there are stars in the universe. And if she's going to push the issue then he may have to come right out and be honest, though he should do so with tact. If he's seeing someone else, he may have to say something like "I want to have a chance and date others ; I don't want to be tied down to any one person." Again, completely honest and not likely to hurt her feelings any more than they're already going to be hurt as it is. If women and/or men aren't able to be truthful when breaking up with someone, it's not due to any innate female or male temperament but rather a lack of communication skills and/or misguided perceptions about sparing one's feelings.
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Aug 1, 2007, 06:01 AM
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Originally Posted by s_cianci
"Dump" ; "break up with" ; all basically means the same thing. Let's not read too much into little words here and miss the forest for the trees. I'm sure his reasons for wanting to break up with her aren't personal, i.e. has nothing to do with her looks and personality. If she was really so unattractive and/or boring, he never would have gone out with her in the first place. That said, there's nothing wrong with him taking a somewhat vague and global approach in the interest of sparing her feelings, though she's bound to get a little wounded regardless, as typically happens when there's a break-up. A basic "it's not working out between us" or "we're just not compatible" are entirely appropriate. They're truthful statements yet without personalizing the issue. If he has indeed decided that he wants to break up with her then it's 100% true that they're not compatible ; otherwise he wouldn't want to break up with her. Now the reasons for the incompatibility can be as varied as there are stars in the universe. And if she's going to push the issue then he may have to come right out and be honest, though he should do so with tact. If he's seeing someone else, he may have to say something like "I want to have a chance and date others ; I don't want to be tied down to any one person." Again, completely honest and not likely to hurt her feelings any more than they're already going to be hurt as it is. If women and/or men aren't able to be truthful when breaking up with someone, it's not due to any innate female or male temperament but rather a lack of communication skills and/or misguided perceptions about sparing one's feelings.
The word "DUMP" shows no compassion.
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Uber Member
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Aug 1, 2007, 06:03 AM
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Originally Posted by Superfed
The word "DUMP" shows no compassion.
Maybe not. Maybe he truly lacks compassion. Or maybe he's not good at expressing himself.
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Aug 1, 2007, 06:08 AM
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Originally Posted by s_cianci
Maybe not. Maybe he truly lacks compassion. Or maybe he's not good at expressing himself.
Funny, he hasn't been back to this thread since he started it. And we are all bickering over his post. I am done here...
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Senior Member
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Aug 1, 2007, 06:54 AM
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Just be honest and tell her how you feel. No matter what you do if she has feelings for you it's going to hurt.
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