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Tom_6899 · Jul 20, 2007, 07:53 PM

Hey, can anyone help me?

I'm nearly 16 and I'm finding that I can't get an erection when I want to have sex. When I first started going out with my girlfriend it was fine and I could get erections no problem but over the past few months I've found that I cant, I can get it hard-ish when I masturbate but not like it should. Its only been happening since we've been having sex and now its completely stopping that. I feel really embarrassed about it and if anyone could give advice it would really be appreciated.

Thanks

robertbarreiro · Jul 20, 2007, 08:22 PM

hey I'm havign the same problem, I'm 16 too. I can get hard but after I.. I can't get hard again no matter what. I'm embarrassed and I feel like I let her down and I hurt my pride is hurt bad. Sorry I don't have any advice or suggestions but I'm just letting you know your not the only one =/

kepi · Jul 21, 2007, 12:01 PM

It could be plain nerves.
If you have a large penis (9+ inches and girth as well), it could be that it takes A LOT of blood... but guess would be nerves.

rockerchick_682 · Jul 21, 2007, 01:45 PM

Go to your doctor, I have no idea.

rockerchick_682 · Jul 21, 2007, 02:30 PM

To tell him to go to his doctor

E3317 · Jul 21, 2007, 03:14 PM

Good answer

E3317 · Jul 21, 2007, 03:14 PM

Dr's will probably say its anxiety, but have them to check testorone

Fr_Chuck · Jul 21, 2007, 03:24 PM

Well since 16 year old don't need to be having sex, then it should not really be a issue for a few years. It is most likely your brain telling you that you don't need to be doing this and making sure it does not happen.

mikezapwnzor · Jul 24, 2007, 10:19 PM

Most of the time not being able to get a full erection means you just aren't aroused. You might do something before to get hard and then have sex?

Motherknowsbest · Jan 13, 2010, 09:09 PM

You guys give the worst advice! You sound like my mother! Something could be really wrong and you're acting like it's an act of God punishing him. This could have serious lasting mental effects on his future not to mention him refusing real medical treatment because he thinks it's all in his head.

Motherknowsbest · Jan 13, 2010, 09:16 PM

You should go have a cbc done. Go to the doctor and tell him/her what has been going on. My son is almost eighteen and I am taking him for the same reason. My friend told me his roommate had the same problem for malnutrition. I know my son eats terrible. I have chronic anemia from Fibromyalgia and had to take 5 iron pills a day when I was pregnant with him. Boys do more than just have sex, they'll know if something isn't working down there. I'm just glad he feels comfortable enough to talk to me about it instead of the judges and jury's here. That's why kids get std's and get pregnant. They have no one to talk to that will make them feel like it's not dirty or wrong. They need to have people they can trust.

sharky2kay · Feb 2, 2010, 07:50 PM

I am having this happening to me , I lost my v September 09.. but before then I had so manny tries at least 9, I am goodlooking as I have been told (not being bigheaded just saying what I have been told ) all my mates think I am so cool when it comes to getting the girl I want, yh I can get the girl but nothing happens , and its like I have nothing to hide when it comes to size because I am 16 up 17 and I have over 8 inch's last time I checked.. I have just started gooing out with this amazing girl and it has already happened 2 times she must think its her so I don't know what I can do about that! it all started like at my 15th birthday party , hot girl gagging for sex I was so hard and yh go to do it and it started to go and it happened agen and agen etc.. so what the hell do I do :( I mean come on I am 16 fair enuff if I was 40 maybe I don't know I need help assap !

defensive_end · Feb 15, 2012, 06:28 PM

Acually nothing is wronge with him. It happens when your nervous, or scared that you won't satisfy your partner, just close your eyes and don't think, it'll get hard, haha, this has happened to me too, but just when its going think in the moment and don't think about it not getting hard, because that's wats stopping it. I hope this helps

didydavies · Apr 15, 2012, 07:58 AM

I'm 16 and I was having sex a lot with my girlfriend but a few weeks ago we split up but when I was with her I was getting an errection when she touched my leg or even when we kissed it was good in a way even she said it was a good thing but ever since we split up I've met another girl who wants sex but for some reason I can't get an erection and I don't no why maybe because of stress or maybe because I keep thinking about my ex I'm not over her can eny one help :)

Trippy27 · Nov 15, 2012, 11:56 PM

Listen u Don't have to go to the doctor for any of this. Its just nerves. Its like this: u try to have sex but you can't get hard. Then you start thinking about why you can't get hard so you end up getting all freaked out and can't have sex. Also cut the porn. You're so used to yerself getting turn on by all the weird they do in porn that yer not used to the real thing. Just relax. Next time yer with yer girl, think about her and only her. The more you pay attention to her, the less you stress about your little problem. I'm 16 and I had this problem and I'm still working on it. But follow my advice for a couple weeks and things will get better. Good luck.