[omma]

I met this guy 4 years ago, who feel in love with me, we dated and I never felt committed or in love, my cousain past away, I had to travel so broke up, he never stpped writing or calling,and I always avoided him, he finally met this girl,which he left once I came back to town,I became lunatic with this girl, dreaming her,she used to work with him, so this made our relationship get worst because I always had he on my mind, he left me and dated this girl for over 2 years, I have to admitt getting over this was ver vey hard(for my ego).later nov 2006 he calls me, we start talking (he broke up) and we started meeting and later dating( many people have not understood why I'm dating this guy who left me for another girl, but I know inside me I wasn't a very nice girlfriend when I was with him), we've always got along very well, and now more than ever,we are very close, he calls me at least 6 times a day,and meet always, but latley he's been having these humour changes, like very cold, or very warm with me. So I asked him, and he admiited that even though he loves me, he is confused... so I said lets give us some time, (because its not very pleasant to be with someone who is confused), we've been 2 weeks apart,and he still calls me, how can he think? If he still knows about me? can you please tell me what am I supposed to do?. I really love him, but I think its unffair to be with someone who is confused and doesn't give me emeotonal stability.
Should I just disappear? Because I feel that when I'm not there he needs and misses me, but when he has me, he doesn't appreciate what he has.


Thanks very much for anything you can say.
I tried to make the story as short as possible.

[580331]

It sounds like to me that there are just egos working here, him as far as yours. Wow you guys had some good times and some bad times but that's why it called dating. It doesn't have to be a long term thing. You tried it felt uncomfortable at first, you guys were off a while then he feels confused now. There are a lot of other fish in the sea, stop fishing in a barrel and brawden your horizons. Obviously there is something missing here and it doesn't sound like love, it sounds like its time to move on and find someone new.
I'm no expert just someone who's been there and done that. I waisted a couple of good years chasing something that wasn't there. You never get that time back, and if I can help someone from making the same mistakes that I made I'll feel 100% better.
Good luck and keep your chin up.

[talaniman]

Stop wasting your time trying to make something, where there is nothing, and break this off cleanly and permanantly.

[UnwantedHero]

Go out and find yourself a guy who will love you for who you are and isn't confused about you.There are plenty of guys out there who are stable and able to fully commit to your needs and all you got to do is find them.