[depressedhelp]

My mom and dad got a divorce when I waws 2 years old and she did bad things to my brother and I and she had given away my half brohter Alex I never found out until I was 10 years old... and she just wants me to get over the divorce all she's says is other kids do I don't believe that but why does she want me to forget? :confused:

[depressedhelp]

Please if you look at this help me because I need advice.

[J_9]

Please be patient, the people who may be able to help you may not be online right now.

[Lolitah_xx]

Probably because of guilt.. I can't give you a completely honest answer because I don't know your mom but maybe she just wants you to let it go because she don't want to see you hurt but she don't know how to say it to you and she don't know how to say it period && maybe your mom don't know how you feel and the pain your going through because she never been through it before and she shouldn't compare you to other people because everyone is different because my dad left when I was one and I been through alott because my mom is a single parent but my dad don't really matter to me and neither does my half little brother but pay that no mind because that's just me but I know how you feel hurt about it because I go through that too 4rm time to time but you will be OK and maybe you should tell your parents how you feel and help them to understand your point of view

[Eileen2005]

It is not easy to advice you, because I had a loving mom who stayed with my dad although he was hard to live with sometimes. But I always thought, she should not have done that, she should have gotten divorce. She stayed for the sake of her children. Cancer took her away when she was only around 60 and my dad started dating a few months after her death. It was not easy for me to forgive my dad. But I thought of the good things about my dad and thought I should not judge my dad and mom. Now I am married and have a two year old daughter. I just want you to know that when you grow up, when you get married, you will know that some times life is so hard you cannot make the right decision. You cannot be a good person all the time. I know it is not easy for you to forgive your mom, but I am a mom and I know that she loves you. It must have been very hard for her to give away your brother. It must have been very painful. And you hating her hurt her even more. She must have had a tough situation, maybe she cannot explain it to you yet honey. For now, try to be a little bit understandable, try to see the good things she does, and try to give her a little comfort. She is not doing anything bad to you now, is she? When she did those things she has been in a hard situation, she should not have done so, I agree with you, but if she knows she has been wrong and if she is nice now, she probably could not have helped it. If you forgive her, then maybe you can be friends together and she explains more about what happened and may be you will see her point. I do not know your mom, but I know it is very difficult to be a mom. May be you find your brother one day and may be you will all live together happily. Hating her does not make anything better, does it? It is better for your own sake to empty your heart from hatred and forgive her. Think to yourself that you have not been in her shoes so why should you judge her?