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paris · Jul 8, 2005, 10:07 AM

We have been trying to get pregnant since December 2004, when I got off the pill. I was just a couple of days late with my period but I just got it, and I feel very disappointed and sad. Feels like everyone around me is getting pregnant right away but me. I have taken the FSH test and the score was 4.0 which is good- means I ovulate regularly. My husband doesn't want to take the sperm count test yet, he think I need to relax. I'm just very disappointed.. what should I do?
Frustrated..

A.J.R · Jul 8, 2005, 01:54 PM

I have been off the Depovera shot for over a year now and I still can't get pregnant. Every month that my period is just a day or two late, I get all excited and think that I'm pregnant, but much to my surprise, my period decides to come down. The best thing is to relax and let nature take its course. If you're to nervous about whether this month is it, your pregnant, then you're just getting your nerves all worked up and it tends to make your body play games with your mind. My best wishes to you and I really hope that the stork visits your happy home soon. :D :D

lickemlolly · Jul 12, 2005, 03:06 PM

Listen what you have to realize is that when coming off any type of contraception it may take a few cycles to get pregnant... this is why I never took depo because I knew people who were on it and after they stopped using it took them over a year to get pregnant... but the pill can take a few cycles before you can actually conceive so give it a little time don't get discouraged it will happen...

kp2171 · Jul 26, 2005, 09:13 PM

Acupuncture may help.?

Wife was treated for severe adhesions and ovarian cysts by MD's. Treatments failed and docs said to take vicadin or get hysterectomy. Three diff MD's.

She didn't. Acupuncture treatments made her drug free in 2 weeks, and over the period of two years eliminated the problem.

Her acupuncturist said that the treatments and herbs used can increase fertility. Our son, 20 months, is possible proof of that!

Soooo... I don't know HOW MUCH it can help... but you might want to talk to an acupuncturist in your area. They did WONDERS for my wife. And EVERYTHING our guy has said he can do, he's been able to do.

The CHI talk sounds like mumbo jumbo, but I'm a chemist, who has trained premed and prepharmacy students... and I believe there is a lot more to acupuncture than the mumbo jumbo talk.

cinbrou · Jul 28, 2005, 05:01 PM

An ovulation test may help if you haven't tried it yet. Some people have a misconception of the date they ovulate. Everyone I know tried it and had success the first month.

LoveMyBooBooGirl · Aug 2, 2005, 12:22 AM

I too am struggling with conception. I get a lot of support from the message board www.fertilitext.org

leanne mundy · Oct 4, 2005, 05:15 PM

Hi my name is leanne I am new on here and I no how you all feel I have bin off my pill for 3 months and can't get pregnant I am so emotional about it and I am scared that I can't conceive at all please help me :mad: :(

fredg · Oct 5, 2005, 06:02 AM

Hi,
You both need to go to a doctor. Explain the circumstances, and get some Professional advice. Your husband needs to go to.
If nothing else right now, you can get some Professional advice, and put your mind at ease. You really seemed concerned with this, and the only way to have peace of mind is for both of you to see a doctor.
Best of luck,
fredg

LoveMyBooBooGirl · Oct 5, 2005, 08:40 AM

Fred, I have been to several doctors and am on meds. I have had days of blood testing and ultrasounds. I have "basic infertility", no visible cause. My body is simply being stubborn. Thankfully, I am more stubborn. I will have a family.

Chery · Oct 8, 2005, 11:54 PM

Hello, If you have not had any success yet, then there might also be other reasons, but I tried from October to January after getting off the pill (1976), so it varies from woman to woman. Has the potential dad been to the doctor and gotten tested? This day and age, it should have nothing at all to do with pride, not if you seriously want a family. There's also artificial insemination if you choose that option. At any rate, keep on trying. The following are some sites to check out - they are good reading and will help you learn a lot about what you are going to face too. Maybe in the forum in the last site, you'll find other potential mom's who had the same problems. Also, you said you're slim, so did you ever have an eating disorder (not meant to get too private) but this can change the body back to pre-adolescent stage and prevent pregnancies well as other damage.

http://www.ovulation-calendar.com

http://www.pregnancy-info.net/pregnancystages.html

http://www.babyfit.com This one is free to join and has
It's own forum. Also covers other questions you might
Have, diet, exercise, etc.

Good Luck!

toby18 · Oct 11, 2005, 01:39 PM

I am feeling completely miserble started my period today. Been trying now for 8 months which I know compared to others isn't that long. But it feels like forever,

Chery · Oct 11, 2005, 02:22 PM

Originally Posted by toby18

i am feeling completely miserble started my period today. been trying now for 8 months which i know compared to others isnt that long. but it feels like forever,

Have you ever heard of 'trying too hard' or heard about people who constantly think only of one thing, or adopt,and then it happens? If you are destined to have children, you will. I tried three times, lost two boys, and carried my girl 10 months even though the doc said I should not get PG because of my heart.
If you have checked with your doctor and everything is OK with you, your partner might have to 'donate' in a little cup to see if his little swimmers are strong enough. There is no shame at all in this today. He could have had an illness like the mumps in childhood and it's not his fault and does not reduce his manhood, so talk to him and both see an infertility specialist. Today's technology makes it a lot easier to help couples like you, so don't feel miserable, it will only add to stress and that won't make things easier either. Check out the sites in my last post. One has an ovulation calendar on it which might help you get the right 'times'. Good Luck to both of you.

clukkes · Oct 11, 2005, 07:06 PM

I have not been on birth control since July 2004 and I am still not pregnant. We have been trying for about 4 months now. It will happen when your body is ready for it. Enjoy having your life together right now and if a baby is made during you know you're doing it right.

Iwannababy2 · Oct 20, 2005, 01:31 PM

I know exactly what you are going through... we have been trying for months and months it seems... I have no one to talk to except him, because well lets just say our parents are not exactly ready to be called grandparents yet... we are so ready and it seems like my body keeps playing games with me and making me think I am... everyone around me is pregnant and all I want is to see those 2 lines! I cry all the time and dream about it every night. I just bought an ovulation kit and hopefully will figure out when I ovulate... this is so stressful... :mad: it seems that all the women and girls that don't want children get them and then the ones who want them more than anything can't get pregnant! I don't know what to do! :confused:

Chery · Oct 20, 2005, 03:14 PM

Originally Posted by Iwannababy2

I know exactly what you are going through....we have been trying for months and months it seems...i have no one to talk to except him, because well lets just say our parents are not exactly ready to be called grandparents yet...we are so ready and it seems like my body keeps playing games with me and making me think i am...everyone around me is pregnant and all i want is to see those 2 lines! i cry all the time and dream about it every night. i just bought an ovulation kit and hopefully will figure out when i ovulate....this is so stressful... :mad: it seems that all the women and girls that dont want children get them and then the ones who want them more than anything can't get pregnant! i dont know what to do! :confused:

http://www.ovulation-calendar.com
http://www.plexxa.com/s/fertility_calendar
www.askdramy.com UK ONLINE DOCTOR

I know just how you feel, some 'ladies' get pregnant by just 'one night stands' and not really wanting to, but it happens. Others try so hard it seems more like a chose than a joy of sharing togetherness and all this is unfair to most of us. I sure hope you get your wish, because young ladies who really want children will also raise them with all the love and comfort possible, rich or poor, and you deserve one.
Check the sites above, the first two deal with firtility times, and the second is an online doctor in the UK, and I've heard is pretty good.

Also another site I found interesting, once you get your wish is:

http://www.babyfit.com **This one is free to join and has it's own forum. Also covers other questions you might have, diet, exercise, medication and clinical procedures. etc.

Got to tell you though, sometimes it's not the woman's problem, but the potential father might have had mumps or other illness when a child and therefore might not be as 'potent' as most. This however can be helped with today's modern technology, and is nothing to be ashamed of. All he has to do is 'donate' in a cup and have his little 'swimmer's counted. If they can't get to where they need to, they can be helped by specialists. If there is arthritis in his family and he's a potential candidate for that and is also on medications that can make his body go through changes, i.e. steroids for arthritis, beta-blockers for circulation problems, etc, he should talk to his doctor to get help. So don't give up, and don't stress yourself out, please. Another thing, please see your doctor on a regular basis, before, during and after. Good Luck, and keep us posted.

s_cianci · Oct 20, 2005, 06:26 PM

Keep trying for a couple more months. If by the end of December of this year nothing's happened, then your husband should consider having his sperm analyzed. You may also want to consult with a fertility expert. It may be costly but they have helped many a struggling couple successfully conceive and have a healthy baby ; in a lot of cases, multiple births at that. Good luck!

buggage · May 8, 2006, 12:56 PM

Pregnancy happens in its own time. It can be VERY stressful and disappointing seeing that negative sign. I have been trying with my hubby for going on 11months now, AFTER having been off the depo shot for 13+ months. (only had two of the shots, and am still not back to normal. Not a good contraception if you everntually want kids) it is frustrating to mebecause I got pregnant with my first one 2 weeks after our marriage. But, the point of all this is that it can happen anytime. I use to stress out sooo much, and test with early response and have deep disappointment every month for 7-8 months. But now I am relaxing, and really starting to enjoy that intimate time with my hubby again, rather then making it a task. I know that God has a timing for everything, and while it may not make sense now, someday it will. Just give it some more time, and enjoy the blessing of being able to try with the man you love. And now that you have been trying so hard, when it finally happens, it will be that much more meaningful and exciting. Best of luck, and keep us posted.

tammyp · May 9, 2006, 02:05 AM

I have a similar situation. I have been of the pill since Aug 2005. In November I was late for about a week & was convinced I was pregnant. After 2 HPT & one blood test it confirmed that I wasn't.I read stuff that says you should want to have a baby so much that your body makes you feel that you are. It was such a sad & emotional time. I was so disappointed & scared. I hadn't been to the doctor. I was under so much of stress & kept hoping. We have bought a house & that added a whole lot more stress because the tenant won't move out. That seems to be making things worse with concieving. Eventually last month I went to the doctor because I had lower abdominal pains & he said there was fluid irritating the linings causing the pain & did a progesterone test to see if I was ovulating. And I wasn't ovulating. My husband has been for the test & it was fine. I have been on medication to sort things out. I have been so stressed with the house & I read that if you have things going on your body knows that you won't be able to handle a pregnancy & there's no ovulation. Maybe your stress is not falling pregnant, maybe you should visit a doctor and then relax. Which I know is easier said than done. I hope that things work out for you. Just hang in there. I hope my story offers some support that you are not alone.

Jnet29 · May 9, 2006, 06:53 PM

HI Paris, try to relax and don't think about having a baby for a while, I know it's hard to do when you really want to have a baby. I was in the same boat for a while it took me after I got off the shot it took me 3 years to get pregnant again, but I had to make a preconception appt with my obgyn doctor got tested for everything to see if I was in good shape health wise to get pregnant again, and in feb 2006 I started taking the prenantal viamins and on apr 2006 on the 20th I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant: ) I hope this can give you all hope that the same can happen for you if you let god do his will and be patient I wish you all the best : )