[nagoli]

Birthdate 10 2 1948

I need advice re my current relationship. Has he been cheating? Is he using me for a place to stay... my car.. Is he capable of commitment?

Thank you.

[lilfyre]

I hate to say this but if you feel he is using you, chances are he is. My sister just went down this road. He was using her for her car, she stopped the use and he left. Men suck some times.

[ranieri]

Dear torn
First of all, your heart is just as closed off as his. You've been hurt, bad. And you do not want to get hurt again.
Second, do not be so ####### yourself for leaving these men. You have good reason not to be with... Maybe you can't put your finger on the exact reason at the given time, but your intuition is right. Too much excess baggage, whether it was their old girlfriends or bad finances or bingeing or etc...
You are not ready just yet for a relationship, you have other areas in your life that scream for attention . That need tidying up first and then your energy changes and is ready.
You are the type of woman that will be successful and have your men, many, various, on the side. Your business is so fulfilling that you need one man because he's good at smoothing over your boss at business dinners. And another because he is fine during the day while you are in meetings all day, he stays out of trouble. A different one because he really is what you need sexually but doesn't like the business dinner or weekend thing. You get what Im saying? You are very strong and powerful. No one man will ever be the it for you. One man simply can not meet all of your aggressive needs. You are not a woman that needs or wants rescueing. You don't want a little boy you have to pick up after all the time and the older man can be somewhat of a bore for you, you tend to have a daring, wild streak in your nature.
The man you are with has no staying power, never has never will. That is his energy this lifetime. Freeloader. The car and the clothes should not matter, but you know they do. So a trendier dresser is needed for whatever occasion you would need to be out. There is a comfort you find withhim, but he holds you back. Once you are away from hi and the real you comes out, you will drop him like a hot potato and not look back.
I have you making a major move in the next year or two to a bigger city, more opportunity and a chance to be around people more like you. And schooling for a degree and more schooling. Peace ranieri

[nagoli]

I hate to say this but if you feel he is using you, chances are he is. My sister just went down this road. He was using her for her car, she stopped the use and he left. Men suck some times.

Don't apologise for saying what you think... I want to know what you think because I don't trust my own thoughts!

Thank you.

[nagoli]

Sorry... not much of what you said seems to hit the mark, but some does and what does is valuable to me. Thank you for the response.

N.