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My mothers always hated me seriously hated me she acts bipolor but has never been diagonosed her behaviour was always a secreat to be keep growing up I accepted this from an early age and took it as the norm in our house now 20yrs later she still hates me and is hell bent on destorying me yes I've tried to work it out yes I've tried the heart ot hearts but no she just hates me point blank I've now decided to let it go and move on but not sure where to start so what I want to ask is has anyone been through this how did they do it

[rankrank55]

If you don't mind me asking... what does your mother do, what has she done? Have you ever read the book A Child Called It? It is a great real life account of a boy who went through traumatic child abuse! Now his mother was definitely out to destroy him! I am so sorry that you have had to grow up around a mother like that... become stronger from it, don't let it bring you down.

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Hi there no I haven't read the book but will look it up as far as my mother.. oh where it begin my mother comes from a family of 8, 3 left alive the rest committed suicide growing up must have been crap for her I wouldn't know as I never was told her mother hated her also so it's a no brainer where it comes from I have a daughter, I don't hate her and I can't work out how I ever could I do not parent as my mother did though, my mother was determined to squash any self esteem and set out to make us dependent upon her, my mother now is using any and every thing to cause trouble in my life as I disobeyed a direct order from her and moved out of her city various authories have come to my house because of complaints made by her and no they are all made up and yes the various authories can see that and have given me the thumbs up one even gave me a hug and told me I was a great mum keep up the good work

[rankrank55]

Sounds like your mom had a pretty ruff childhood and that's probably why she as acted the way she has. It's unfortunate. All I can say is, GOOD FOR YOU for breaking the cycle! Maybe you can get your mom some help... for you of course!

[s_cianci]

I agree with the above poster. Moving away from her was the wisest thing you could have done. The next time any authorities show up on your doorstep with fabricated complaints from your mother, turn right around and charge her with harassment, filing a false police report and whatever else the cops or an attorney can help you think of.