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Synder · Jun 26, 2007, 02:03 PM

He may be. Is there any other reasons though?

rankrank55 · Jun 26, 2007, 02:06 PM

Not really besides my gut feeling...

Synder · Jun 26, 2007, 02:08 PM

Originally Posted by americangayboy

Hmmm...I hate that. I wish (jokingly) that I was psychic so there wouldn't be all of this confusion surrounding straights. You never can tell what's going on upstairs lol Just last week I hooked up with a 28 year old closet case who was raised in Chicago (not the suburbs, the actual city!) It's not like he grew up in a hostile environment and he said his parents are pretty liberal. Also, he was TOTALLY butch...beer drinking, football watching, nut scratching straighty.

Okay, none of those things makes a person straight or gay as I guess you found out. I like football I know gay guys who play football , lots of gay guys drink beer, and sometimes the nuts itch. I think most of the problem is that for every stereotypically gay guy, there are five guys who blend in seamlessly.

americangayboy · Jun 26, 2007, 02:11 PM

Ummm... that's my point exactly. He was nothing that you imagine a gay (or in his case bi) man would be, but he still had sex with men. My point is the only people we can be sure about are those of us who have come out as gay (well, I guess that's not 100% true but people are more likely to lie and say they're straight than the opposite).

Synder · Jun 26, 2007, 02:12 PM

Originally Posted by rankrank55

Not really besides my gut feeling...

Well it all depends on how far you want to go to find out. Ask him or take him up on one of his innuendos. Make sure whatever you do, you have his feelings in mind and you don't corner him or put unnecessary stress on you or your relationship with him.

rankrank55 · Jun 26, 2007, 02:14 PM

I completely understand! I won't ask him, it doesn't matter to me. If he ever wants to tell me then I'm sure he will... until then, we will still be the best of buds!

rankrank55 · Jun 26, 2007, 02:15 PM

Thanks for both of your input BTW! Good luck in both of your situation also!

Synder · Jun 26, 2007, 02:50 PM

Here is another one, there is a guy in my class (college). With him, I just have a feeling. No evidence, no years of friendship. I actually only met him a few weeks ago. He just seems kind of... well gay.

So I become his lab partner basically because he was cute and that... feeling. The only thing I noticed was that he didn't mind brushing up against me (randomly on accident) or reaching over and around me while we did experiments. He seems like the quiet type. I'll catch him outside of class reading some novel. In class, even though he has been there for almost two months now, he doesn't seem to talk to the girl he sits near to or anyone really. So I found out his name and I looked him up on Facebook. He's one of those people who doesn't list what gender he's interested in. He also didn't have more than 35 friends at my school which is really low for a third year. He has a ton of pictures though. The ones he has posted himself aren't of him or his friends, but one particular guy.

Some of them include a girl, but most are of the guy. Him sleeping, him at a park, him posing in front of a statue. The comments he makes are stuff like "aw soooo cute" or "omg hawt." The thing is, that guy he has pictures of is pretty cute actually and in all the 170+ pictures people have posted of him, none of them include a girl and him together going back three years so I figure he's probably gay and that my gaydar is working at least a little.

akms · Sep 7, 2007, 04:49 PM

Telling pple your str8 not being flirty with boys etc...