Originally Posted by
talaniman
What does making porn with a friend mean, and is he still doing it?? If he was that way when you met him, did you expect him to change, or that you could change him??
To answer your question: He and a friend got together and took pics/videos of other women in different scenes or fetishes. I never believed I could change him. For the first year we were together, I tried to accept the whole pron thing. It wasn't like I just up and said for him not to do it. We did have several discussions. In the end, his friend was hurt. Also in addition to the other crap that has gone on. His friend send a message telling him he had to be more professional because my boyfriend supposedly called and asked one of their models to meet him at a motel, Of course my boyfriend explained it away and said his friend did it just because he was angry over the situation.
From americangayboy: I have a series of questions: did you find anything while snooping through his stuff?
Several messages that should not have been sent if he is with me.
Why did you start dating this guy if his career in pornography was offensive to you?
In the beginning I didn't know and then when I found out, I tried to be cool with it because it was something he had been doing for a while.
Are you with this guy just because of your child?
At this point I don't know. When we talk our son never comes up and the conversation is about us as a couple. He knows I am fully capable of doing things alone.
I do, but I'm hating his behaviors.
What were the problems you "worked out"?
Actually, He thought they were worked out. Obviously I still have reservations. He has a convenient excuse for everything. In all other areas, he is a sincere person, but (and I quote his words) "he can sell water to a well." I'm not a well.
When he was doing the whole porn thing-which led to my distrust- he would meet a girl in the grocery store and have her call him to arrange for pics. He told me he "had to come at the girls as if he wanted to get with them." On top of that, the friend he was doing the shoots with cheats on his wife constantly. I was hearing things not only from my boyfriend, but from the girls the guy was seeing. All that combined and the stigma of being involved in porn is what led to me asking him to stop.