Originally Posted by
doesSheLoveme
ok this is how it started..my ex Girlfriend broke up with me because she said it's not the same after a 1yr and 6months..
That’s girl talk and translated it means that you’ve changed in some way.
Originally Posted by
doesSheLoveme
i did the worst thing possible-called her and didn't giv her space, asked her questions and if she would ever get back with me?
Yeah that was the worse thing you could do. Begging is never attractive.
Originally Posted by
doesSheLoveme
she told me i don't know so a week after that a girl kissed me as a joke which my ex girlfriend doesn't like..the girl who kissed me told my ex girl friend's bestfriend and her bestfriend told my ex girlfriend..i tried 2 explain myself but she didn't want 2 listen..
What exactly do you have to explain? She broke up with you. That means she gave you the freedom to kiss whoever you like.
This was your second mistake. If anything you should have been happy with these actions. You’re a desirable by somebody your ex doesn’t like. That means that the girl that kissed you is apparently smarter then your ex. There’s no explanation that you had to give.
Originally Posted by
doesSheLoveme
so i tried proving myself to her by getting someone who seen the girl kiss me to tell my ex girlfriend she kissed me and not the other way around..so the girl told her that i didn't kiss her and my ex girlfriend's best friend couldn't mind her business and we got into it with words(me and her bestfriend) and thats when she didn't want 2 talk 2 me anymore.
You had it great. You had a girl kiss you that your ex hates, and you instead begged somebody else to try and justify the fact that you are desirable. That’s exactly what I take from that, and I bet that’s exactly what your ex took from it as well.
Originally Posted by
doesSheLoveme
i called her 3 days after this happen and she (ex-girlfriend) told me she hates me and doesn't want 2 get back with me ever and that she doesn't LOVE ME ANYMORE so i didn't call her for another week then called her and asked her if she said dat out of anger and she said no i do mean it but she says "i'll call you when i'm ready to be your friend"
What are you doing? You have one girl who kisses you and you ignore (yes I know you were not interested) and another who treats you like crap and you try to justify the behavior she gives you and worse, try to justify being desirable. This is all backwards to what you should be doing.
Originally Posted by
doesSheLoveme
....so what i'm asking is ...is she ever going 2 call me ?
Yes. When she wants something and she knows that you will do it for her.
Originally Posted by
doesSheLoveme
and are we ever going to get back together ?
No.
Originally Posted by
doesSheLoveme
And if so, should I get back with her?
Seems like a lot of useless drama for your life.
Originally Posted by
doesSheLoveme
Are these even the right questions to be asking?
Yeah they are good questions. It’s better to have solid answers then to flounder around.
Originally Posted by
doesSheLoveme
If I can't get back into a relationship with her, I want to at least be friends.. is that wrong?
That’s up to you. But she certainly doesn’t treat you very well for a friend.
Originally Posted by
doesSheLoveme
Am I just in the "what-if" stage of the breakup? Should I move on or continue to try with her?
Move on.
Originally Posted by
doesSheLoveme
How do I go about this? I'm new to the break-up situation..my first long term relationship-break-up..help needed..advice greatly appreciated..=)
I'd recommend making a list of things that you want to do in the short term only. Hang that list up so that you see it when you go to sleep and when you wake up and start working on those things. The more you focus on those things the better you'll start to feel and less you'll think of the ex.
I also recommend that if you don't have a gym membership you get one. Working out is a great way to get out of the house but also make yourself feel better. Get on a elliptical or stairmaster and just go for 10 or 15 minutes. Get off and rest and then do it again for another 10 or 15 minutes. I promise you, you won't be thinking about anything else other than what your doing. Plus it's healthy for you. Even if you don't get a gym membership take a walk, and go for long ones if you have the time. It gets you out the house, clears you head, and makes is healthy for you. If you have something else you like that's physical do that. Anything that creates motion in your body is good for you.