[heartbroken]

Okay, so my ex and I broke up about 2 months ago and since then, I still haven't gotten completely over him, he still tells me he misses me when I run into him and he is still sweet to me, hugging me, etc. But, I have been trying to move on and go out and meet new people. I've been seeing this really nice guy for about 1 1/2 months and he seems really into me. But, the thing is, he doesn't call much. I'm not sure if he is really into me or not. He mentioned once that I don't call him, which is true for the most part. I just kind of feel like it is the guys place to call more often. Am I wrong? Should I call him and show that I am interested? Does he need that encouragement?

Thanks for the advice

[CroCivic91]

I like it when my girl calls... I see it as a sign of her missing me. I'd hate to always be the one to take the first step. Screw the "it's the man's thing to call". If it's like that, then I say it's a woman's job to do all the housework! I just don't believe in such things as "man's" or "woman's" job (except giving birth).

[BattleAngel14745]

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[lickemlolly]

Well as a word of personal experience guys don't pick up the phone to call much... its usually the woman who picks up the phone to call the guy... if your not over your ex then you shouldn't be getting into another rship off the rebound not fair to the person that you are talking to... I think you should spend some time alone... you can't hop off one bus and onto another if the other bus is headed in the direction you want to go...

[ArchanicDemise]

In my opinion it depends on the reason for the break up, although you should not play with the guy you are seeing emotions. You are currently unsure of what you are going to do, I would tell the current guy that you need some time to think things over for your life is getting a little too complicated.
I would attempt not to make him wait for more then a week, until you render your verdict. On the matter of the current guy in your life, he might think that you don't like him for the lack of calls usually once a day or once every two days might assist your relationship.
As for your ex I cannot give any more "advice whether taken or not" unless I have a general idea of the reason for the break up.

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If this offends you in any way I apolagize.

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[heartbroken]

Absolutely no offense taken; thanks for your advice...

My ex broke up with me because he is only 21 and hasn't been able to be on his own. He was in a 3 year relationship before me and he says he can't be in another serious one right now. However, he told me that if he was to be in a relationship, it would be with me. We had no problems at all in our relationship, we had almost everything in common and connected so well. All of his friends are home for the summer from school and so I know that he has been spending all of his time with them, hanging out and going out. I have bumped into him at least 4 times since our breakup and we still get along really well. He says that he still wants to keep in touch, but that hasn't really been very successful. The thing is, I feel like he is giving me mixed messages. He tells me he will call me, tells me to call him, tells me he misses me, and hugs me when he sees me. He is never cold or mean to me when I see him. The last time I saw him, he told me he misses me, 2 times, he gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek before saying he would call me, but he hasn't yet.

I just don't know what to think, he is really young, I'm 28, but we seem perfect for one another. He even said that he was happy with me, that's not why he broke up with me. He just needs to be on his own for awhile.

What do you think? Thanks

[ArchanicDemise]

Next time you speak with him, I would inform him that his mixed emotions are causeing you confusion. Tell him how you feel about him and also inform him that you can't just wait around anymore for him to make up his mind, and if he misses you, truly misses you then he should be with you.

[mike145k]

Well of course he should call you, and there should be respect in a relationship and to say screw the rules of dateing and let the woman call no that's wrong that's why couples are inconstant trouble they ignored the rules and the liberals have busted the traditions and customs that made this country great no longer is marriage the sacred step,its in shambles so keep the tradition of dateing alive and well resist your hormones from destroying your life and most likely a child's life too.fight that urge and become a woman who can hold her head up high and say thank you god