[ProfScwentz]

Hello all, I need help!

Well to start things off, I'm in the Marine Corps and I was stationed in Okinawa Japan for the past 2 years, and I've been married for 8 months, and I'm 21 years of age. I was dating a very nice, beautiful, christian girl before I went over there. When I got there, I met someone else. This someone else ended up wooing me. We started a physical relationship that lasted until we got married. I still feel horrible about ending things with my ex. And here's another complication. My wife is going to be giving birth to our son in 2 months. I believe I'm still in love with my ex. I've contacted her via instant messaging and she says she's still in love with me. My marriage right now is on the rocks, and I'm misserable and unhappy. I want to lead a life of happiness. I've tried getting advice from my mother, but she and my stepfather are doing nothing but preaching to me saying I should get back in church and everything will get better. I believe I have already emotionally left my wife. It's hard for me to tell her that I love her, because I feel that I don't. I sometimes feel like I never fell in love with her at all. I believe we stayed together because we were in japan without our families.

[Dennis777]

Hello ProfScwentz

Don't give up on your marrige yet. Many of us have wanted the greener grass on the other side of the fence. Its normal to feel like your marriage is going down hill because it is in some ways. Your hitting the part of any marriage where the excitement is gone and reality is taking over. What you need to do is bring back in the spark. Make the marriage you have fun and exciting. Its some work but once you learn to make what you have fun and exciting your going to have a fantastic life. Your kids will grow up in a home with Love and excitement. Your days will be filled with wanting to make each other happy. Once your back on that road you will find out all the reasons you married your wife.

Good Luck
Dennis777

[jimswife]

Hello all, I need help!

Well to start things off, i'm in the Marine Corps and i was stationed in Okinawa Japan for the past 2 years, and i've been married for 8 months, and i'm 21 years of age. I was dating a very nice, beautiful, christian girl before i went over there. When i got there, i met someone else. This someone else ended up wooing me. We started a physical relationship that lasted until we got married. I still feel horrible about ending things with my ex. And here's another complication. My wife is going to be giving birth to our son in 2 months. I believe i'm still in love with my ex. I've contacted her via instant messaging and she says she's still in love with me. My marraige right now is on the rocks, and i'm misserable and unhappy. I want to lead a life of happiness. I've tried getting advice from my mother, but she and my stepfather are doing nothing but preaching to me saying i should get back in church and everything will get better. I believe i have already emotionally left my wife. It's hard for me to tell her that i love her, because i feel that i don't. I sometimes feel like i never fell in love with her at all. I believe we stayed together because we were in japan without our families.

Marine
Oh Boy! What a mess. You should not make any hasty decissions. You have a baby on the way. Don't jump the gun. Give yourself some breathing time. If you were so much in love with your ex would you have gone as far as to marry someone else. Pray on it a while.
Good Luck with what ever you decide. Jims Wife