[Emrielle]

Well, I am 16, and I would like some advice and other peoples opinions about the situation, and what I should do.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 6 months. The begging of our relationship was great. We can only see each other once every 1 or 2 weeks, so he would always tell me how much he missed me, and he would be romantic, and sweet, etc. That's the guy I fell in love with.
For about a month, he has been acting differently. He doesn't tell me he misses me anymore. I don't remember the last time he said something sweet or romantic, like he used to. There's stuff that I just don't feel ready to do yet, and lately he's been doing some obvious hinting, and complaining about how I won't let him do anything and how I have him stuck on first base. He used to hang out with me every chance he could, now It's like he doesn't care. He doesn't even say "I love you" anymore.
At one point I admitted to being a somewhat jealous person, and now he always comments on how sexy other girls are, and how easy it would be for him to get the girl down the street in bed with him if he wanted. It's as if he wants me to be jealous.
I don't really feel like I can be open with him, and when I tried to let him know how I was feeling, he said he was sorry, but after that nothing changed. There have been times when I feel like he wants to say something, but then changes his mind.
I feel hurt and unloved. I don't know what happened. I do love him, and I really don't want to break up, but lately I've been thinking that maybe it would be best for both of us. I think he is bored with the relationship, or maybe it's something I don't see. Even though I don't necessarily agree with the whole "taking a break" thing, I have considered it. I'm confused. I wish I knew why he started acting like this so maybe I could fix it.
I really don't want to lose him, but I don't know what else to do.

[roxypox]

well I'm not a guy so I don't know what that whole making you jealous thing is all about. Rumor has it that he might be testing you. You know like do you really really like me, do you really really love me.

but it does seem that he is pressuring you for sex... both by complaining that you won't go beyond 1st base and by telling you that he could easely bed some girls down the street... if he doesn't respect that you are not ready... is he really worth your time?

I know some people debute before the age of 16, some at the age of 16, but there is nothning wrong with wanting to wait until you feel ready to make such an emotional engagement.

sex is serious business... I waited a really long time, because I didn't feel ready.

I totally understand that you feel hurt and unloved, its can't be a pleasant experience to have the guy your with, in love with and love tell you that he could easely sleep with some random girl.

you say that you don't want to lose him, and maybe I'm a bit extreem in this area, but it seems like it might be a good idea for you to set the record straight: i.e. maybe you need to tell him how you feel? About the pressure, the complaints and the distance that seem to have erupted between you

and it might be possibe that you need to tell him that you can't have sex, or move beyond 1st base until you feel ready to, and if he really cares about you he should respect that and if he doesn't respect it you deserve someone who will!

good luck hon! :)

[talaniman]

Your in love, he is in lust. He backs away because, he isn't getting what he wants from you, and the jealous thing is his way of putting pressure on you.

Stand by your guns, and realize that there are others out there for you, who will respect you as a person, he does NOT.

You don't need him, or his pressure. So get someone who feels as you do, and wants to have fun with you.