[skerdude]

My girlfriend just broke up with me because we don't see enough of each other, I completely understand that part. But she said said she still wants to remain close friends and maybe start to date when we see more of each other. But she's saying that she is so confused and emotionally distressed. What can I do to help her. I really like her and she means a lot to me.

[smoothy]

Do yourself a favor and move on... you will likely waste time chasing her like a lovesick puppy hoping for the possibility at some future time for something that will probably never happen... EVER.


It really is that simple. Don't waste your time... its time you will NEVER get back. And since you will almost certainly never get what you think you will, you will end up feeling like a fool... while she moves on and finds another boyfriend.


She knows what she's doing... you are only hearing what you want to hear, and its not what she's actually saying. She's just trying to get you to leave her alone and being nice about how she says it.

I would be seriously surprised if she actualy meant what you think she meant....they usually mean the opposite of what you want to hear. People particularly when they are young....will do everything to turn what someone says in their minds into what they really want to hear....rather than taking it literally for what they actually said. People don't waste time crafting clever hidden meanings....they say what they mean most of the time.

[skerdude]

Im also very confused on to what's going on. I really like her and she really likes me. She is always saying how once we start seeing more of each other (after this summer passes, because I am grounded all summer) that we can start to date again.

[smoothy]

And you ACTUALLY believe that? Bwaaaahahaha. Seriously dude... thats not what she means when she says it. I know women... she is letting you down easy. Take the hint...sorry if that sounds harsh....but she's NOT your girlfriend if she EVER says that.

[Homegirl 50]

She broke up with you. She is not confused she is just trying to be nice. She is gone, accept it.

[smoothy]

I agree... your EX-GIRLFRIEND knows exactly what she wants... you are the one that's confused here... she moved on... and is no longer your girlfriend, she told you this much in what she said... you are trying to hang on to what is now no more than a memory.

[talaniman]

Why are you grounded for the whole summer?

[Fr_Chuck]

I guess one issue is how old, is everyone. Sounds like kids that are 12 to 14 and they always want to be friends, and do not know how to break up.

In a real adult world, the words, we can stay friends,, just means it is over, and they are trying to be nice and not mean when they break up. It never means they reallly will be friends