[missbrother9]

My sister in law never liked me from day one.
She never likes when my brother jokes around
With me.
She uses her kids as bait,where me and my husband
Can't see them.
She uses her own brother and sister inlaw to get
Her way!!
She calls when she wants ababy sitter,but we can't
Take them out for fun.
My brother love's his kid's,but
She will get on his back.
She always is!!
I miss my brother,it's unfair:(
What should I do?
Does anybody else have this promblem?

[kp2171]

Well.. he (bro) needs to get a pair.

She might be the one who is acting poorly, but he (and apparently the family) has accepted this as normal behavior.

You get the respect you demand at best, and sometimes not even that.

And he allows it to happen. Rail on her all you want, but he lets it happen to you in the name of love, fear, whatever.

Sorry it sucks. Don't understand the babysitting/fun issue.

And who cares if she doesn't like it if you joke around with him? That's her problem.

My wife has an aunt who is just acid incarnate. She absolutely hates our side of the family, and all the people connected to it through marriage, etc. she's probably the most unpleasant woman I know to be around. So I try not to be around her, and when I am I know that it must be hell to be so unhappy in your life that you need to make life hell for all others around you.

Really, that's how I tolerate her. I don't bend to make her happy, and when she's off base and ranting I couldn't care less. Its almost fun now to know her blood pressure is going through the roof. Her problem.

I get it you miss your brother. He's chosen this path. He's not a victim. He has choices. He is choosing this and choosing to let this behaviour be a normal part of his life.

[Bluerose]

It's a shame but this goes on in a lot of families. It could quite simply be a personality clash - it happens. Maybe you should just try to be there for your brother. But maybe too she has some trust issues, I wonder if trying to ignore what she does and try to get closer to her. Sometimes when we take the time to get to know someone things change dramatically because we are not so much on the defensive expecting trouble from the other person.

[statictable]

She needs a hook shot to her net. She needs to capitalize the "b" in the word Bxxch and I'll bet if you look up the word "creepy" in the dictionary her picture would be there. She's what some might call a "nightmare" while others see her as just a silly woman. Some might not notice this behavior at all. Take one giant step above her and use your time for more constructive things. Does your brother have the same feel for the situation?