[Knarik]

Hi all of you,I'm 21 and I have a boyfriend,who really loves me a lot and tells me it all the day many times during the day,he cares for me too much and I love him too.But what disturbes me a lot is his past g.f who cheatd him and he suffered a lot because of her and it makes me sad and hurted. I really understand that it sensless,because I know he even doesn't think about her,but I take very bad when I imagine he loved her,he suffered for a b*itch like she,and also she is very very ugly,really I wanted to find any reason that he could love her,but she is also ugly in her appreance,rwally like a monkey,and it hurts me a lot and I really want to leave all this relationship and leave him,as I begin to get nagry on you and lose respect when I remember he loved such a girl.Plzzzz help or else I get mad and lose my love and hurt him again. P.s he is also very afarid of losing me. Thanks beforehand.

[weendybezarius]

You shouldn't worry much
You should be there for him
You shouldn't worry about his ex girlfriend she's gone right?

[Fr_Chuck]

You need serious counseling, as you get older, the men you meet, boyfriends will have had many relationships, and first looks should have noting to do with it, YES, he loved his past girlfriend, and it is great that he did not for looks, but because of other reasons.

All will have pasts, they will have sex with them, may have kids with them, so time to be happy for what you have before you lose it

[Knarik]

Thanks so much all of you,I think it's also because our relatinoship is in distance and also new,we date still 3 months and live in different countries,but we met 1 month ago and will soon again,I hope all this will pass when we get together. We talk to each other 7/24. We wake up and talk to each other,all the day speaking and at night saying each other goodnight and sleep.

[joypulv]

It's a really serious situation when someone can't handle the past relationships of the person they love. If this is as bad as you say it is, you need professional help, or you are doomed to repeat it all through life.

To tell you the truth, it sounds like you are angry at him for loving someone so awful and ugly (in your eyes). You don't sound like you care so much about her hurting him; this is about you thinking you are somehow lumped in with her in thhe looks category if he loved her and then you.

PLEASE! Get over it. He is a fine man for not caring about looks. Your looks will be gone in 15 years or so, you know, so be glad you have him.

[Knarik]

Thanks all of you so much for help :)) I really acted like a witch,who hates all.I understand that I was not right and I just decided and will be happy. Thanks again to all of you.