[xiaocake]

He said he loved me, and he told me I was very important for him. We have known each other for almost one year, but actually he never thought about sex. We just study together and go to church together. I think love is intimacy. I can not trust him that he loves me. He is a Christian, but I think true love is strong enough to overcome any belief. I don't want to tell him what I want. If refused, I would rather die. Does he never have sex desire? Or does he never think he really love me?

[tawnynkids]

First of love is not sex. Love is a heart felt feeling but more importantly it is the acts of love as well. To love someone is to treat them with kindness, to be honest, to forgive, to respect, to honor them... etc. If he is a Christian and wants to wait to have sex then good for him. If you loved him you would show him by respecting him. Not asking him to change his values, morals or beliefs to suit your wishes. That my dear I am sorry to say is selfish. You may say that you want to show him that you love him but there are so very many other ways you can show him that. And yes I am sure he does has sexual desire but the difference is he has respect for himself and you, believe it or not, to follow his morals and wait. God designed sex to be something shared between a husband and a wife, to be a part of a healthy marriage. Don't ask him to go against his love for God and wanting to obey Him. Do show him ultimate love and respect him and yourself and find all the other ways you can show him how much you love him.

[Krs]

Yes LOVE is not SEX.

Love is a strong positive emotion of regard and affection.

Have you considered the fact that christians believe sex out of marriage is a sin??

I would count your blessings that someone says he loves you and is not trying to get in your pants these days!