Originally Posted by
kishanv06
we have joint custody. and he pays support we WAS up til the beging of last month!! our agreement states that he takes his son the FIRST week of every month and when he starts school its ONE weekend a month.. that is wat his mother wrote for OUR agreement.. i am beinging nice and letting him have his son every other weekend and they want to be rude to me about it.. atleast im being nice and letting him go every other weekend and not with wat his MOTHER wrote for our AGREEMENT!! even if they take him the fisrt weekend his dad calls me to come and get him after he has had him 3 days he can not HANDLE his son cause his son has ADHD and OC.. i understand having trouble but his dad has told me sooooo many times that he dont want his son it makes me want to get his last name changed to mine and not worry with him anymore!!
I still don't understand - his mother wrote an agreement which you signed? The Court ordered visitation/custody? Something else?
Getting the child's last name changed does not change who or what his father is.
This is another case of why did you have a child with this person in the first place? I find it hard to believe that he was a wonderful person from a wonderful family, you had a child and... boom, everything changed.
I think you want to change the child's name to punish the father. At any rate, you are only complicating things if the child uses two different last names and the Court is not going to let you change the child's name without the father's consent.
Your "not bothering him" any more statement makes little sense. You sound very vengeful.
If he's not paying support take him back to Court.