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    #81

    Nov 22, 2012, 12:36 PM
    And do not wimp out if she whines that you apparently don't love her.
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    #82

    Nov 22, 2012, 12:54 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    And do not wimp out if she whines that you apparently don't love her.
    What do I do if she accuses me of hiding something? How much of my personal life do I reveal? Should I try to be more mysterious?
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    #83

    Nov 22, 2012, 12:56 PM
    You don't reveal anything. Let her accuse until the cows come home. Ignore her.
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    #84

    Nov 22, 2012, 12:57 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    You don't reveal anything. Let her accuse until the cows come home. Ignore her.
    Just so I know... whats that going to accomplish? Curiosity?
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    #85

    Nov 22, 2012, 12:59 PM
    Who cares? We are working on you, not her. If she's curious, big deal. Let her be curious.

    You need to have a spine.
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    #86

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:00 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Who cares? We are working on you, not her. If she's curious, big deal. Let her be curious.
    OK what else do I have to work on?
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    #87

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:03 PM
    Can you ignore her pleas and moans that you can trust her now, that you need to get back to your "old self"?
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    #88

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:05 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Can you ignore her pleas and moans that you can trust her now, that you need to get back to your "old self"?
    Im going to have to. If this has any chance of being saved
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    #89

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:07 PM
    Change passwords if she has any?
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    Nov 22, 2012, 01:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Change passwords if she has any?
    I already did
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    #91

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:09 PM
    So you are setting boundaries? And will stick to them? Even when she flutters her little eyelashes at you?

    Oh, and stop having sex with her.

    What's your favorite and mostly only word to say to her from now on?

    Never discuss, apologize, or waffle.
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    #92

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:11 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    So you are setting boundaries? And will stick to them? even when she flutters her little eyelashes at you?

    Oh, and stop having sex with her.
    I am going to set the boundries when were one on one because she needs to listen to me and I know its not going to be enough with a simple phone call or a text message. I have changed my passwords. And I am sick of her games so I won't give in to her anymore...
    AND NO MORE SEX :'(

    Quote Originally Posted by wondergirl View Post
    what's your favorite and mostly only word to say to her from now on?

    Never discuss, apologize, or waffle.
    No
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    #93

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:13 PM
    This will be tough. You will want to cave. You will be charmed and thrilled and yelled at and spit upon. But you will never waver.
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    #94

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:17 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    This will be tough. You will want to cave. You will be charmed and thrilled and yelled at and spit upon. But you will never waver.
    The last 6 months have been tough but I feel that its given me the strength for this
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    #95

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:18 PM
    I can trust you to do what you need to do? You will think of me when the going gets tough? You will think of my mad face staring at you if you waffle or let her cross your boundaries?
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    #96

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:19 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    I can trust you to do what you need to do? You will think of me when the going gets tough? You will think of my mad face staring at you if you waffle or let her cross your boundaries?
    Yes I can do this!
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    #97

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:21 PM
    I will now send you on your way. If you mess up, I will instantly disappear in a puff of smoke and end up in a place to which I do not want to go. Save me from that fate. Be true to yourself and the boundaries you establish. Go now in peace. Report back as needed.
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    #98

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:23 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    I will now send you on your way. If you mess up, I will instantly disappear in a puff of smoke and end up in a place to which I do not want to go. Save me from that fate. Be true to yourself and the boundaries you establish. Go now in peace. Report back as needed.
    Lol OK thank you for pushing me in the right direction.
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    #99

    Nov 22, 2012, 01:25 PM
    I will pray for your safe return.
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    #100

    Nov 24, 2012, 09:19 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    I will pray for your safe return.
    OK so Thursday morning was the last time I spoke with her. Today she texts me back saying "hey stranger." I don't reply until almost an hour later. She calls me and I tell her that I needed an important document that she has. She keeps insisting that she can't hand it over today. I get a little upset and give her attitude.. was I right to give her attitude? Why does she think that its OK to not speak to me and later on resume as if nothing ever happened? How do I change that?

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