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2008kwc · Nov 5, 2008, 01:35 PM

Thank you, it definitely is coming along better. Perhaps ill attach this little message on the card?

On the card it says, "Thinking of you, just thought id send you something to say that i am thinking of you everyday" and on the inside it says "So when skies are blue and your feeling down, remember you have me to wipe away your frown"

So perhaps this little message would be appropriate for the card, as the card is showing her I miss her.. but the message will explain I can understand and can wait?

2008kwc · Nov 5, 2008, 01:39 PM

Oh and also a little magnet saying "A hug is a great gift, one size fits all"

NallaNeedsYou · Nov 5, 2008, 02:13 PM

Magnet is a good idea, it should explain that you understand what her priorities are and that you support her in her actions. I am sorry that I cannot keep putting my ideas forward, I must go to bed now! Trust your instincs, and if you aren't 100 percent sure it is ready wait until your ready. Good luck

2008kwc · Nov 5, 2008, 03:59 PM

Well it is done, I posted it and waited round the corner and said "just posted somthing thru for you x" she replied with " :S okayyy x"
So I didn't reply, and then a few minutes later I got "Thankyou that was nice! x"

So now I wait I guess!

NallaNeedsYou · Nov 6, 2008, 01:47 AM

Yes wait and hope but take it easy. Don't rush things it will take her a long time to get her mind round it.

2008kwc · Nov 6, 2008, 05:11 AM

Hmm yeah

Last night I was chatting to her best friend again, and I asked "whether i should speak to her or not, i want too but im trying my best to respect the space we agreed too"
Obviously not as blunt as that, I worked up too it, but she was just like "Just talk to her!"

NallaNeedsYou · Nov 6, 2008, 05:13 AM

Im at school so cannot talk for long. Does she know about her dad?

2008kwc · Nov 6, 2008, 05:14 AM

Yeh I would have thought she does

NallaNeedsYou · Nov 6, 2008, 05:17 AM

OK then tell her how you feel. Explain you support her in everything she does. Again don't say anything about you wanting a relationship but concentrate on how she is enevitably going to pass on to charlie. Say what you need to say to charlie but explain it and show that you are not worried about the relationship.

2008kwc · Nov 6, 2008, 05:23 AM

Hmm I see, ill have to try that.

Last night after I dropped off the card and letter, that's when I spoke to her best friend and asked whether I should talk to her or not.
So in the end I did actually say hey to charli.
We actually chatted for a good hour or so before she went to bed at about 1ish+. She was very tired though and was replying as quick as she usually does, just not with the enthusiasm she usually does. And it isn't just to me, it was to my friend too, he showed me a little part of their chat. She was trying though, kind of, wasn't ending topics we talked about, but just couldn't seem to show a smile, which I understand.

It was hard not hearing or being able to say "I Love You" at the end though

NallaNeedsYou · Nov 6, 2008, 05:25 AM

You did very well and be happy with what happened. She opened up very quickly in the sircumstances! Be happy and remember to be patient. I must go now but will be on this evening.

2008kwc · Nov 6, 2008, 05:27 AM

We didn't talk about us though, or her dad, nothing along them lines at all. Just random things.

Ok look forward to speaking to you soon

jjwoodhull · Nov 6, 2008, 08:51 AM

I know this is hard for you, but you are doing well with your actions. You are a good person.

NallaNeedsYou · Nov 6, 2008, 12:51 PM

Cannot post now but will be on tommurow, update on how its going... have you talked to your mum?

2008kwc · Nov 6, 2008, 12:54 PM

At the moment, me and charli are talking about everything now

NallaNeedsYou · Nov 6, 2008, 01:01 PM

Great!
Keep your cool and stay positive. What is being said?

2008kwc · Nov 6, 2008, 01:03 PM

Well at the moment, she is opening up more and were talking about stuff in her head. Not about us.. that is last

NallaNeedsYou · Nov 6, 2008, 01:08 PM

Great keep going, don't push her. I am amazed that she opened up to you so quickly. Don't ruin it by acting selfishly and keep being supportive! Im glad things are getting better. I must log off now, got a lot of homework. Keep your cool and stay positive.

2008kwc · Nov 7, 2008, 08:55 AM

Well, she just wants to go back to being friends right now. I have to respect that, and from now I need to stop putting pressure on her, and help her take it off so I am the one she can come too whenever she needs to let go and stuff. I feel in the long run this will eventually make us stronger however it takes.

Last night at about 12 I changed my tone, and started being upbeat and light hearted, and not mentioning anything about us, her dad or anythgn like.
Her tone soon changed and she began to finally laugh and giggle and put enthusiasm in her speech!

Just got to keep going and apply no pressure, ths will be a long rocky road, and if this is truly meant to be, she will come back.

Just being her friends right now could most likely lead back to us being better than ever in time, need to be patient.
Her feelings have most likely not changed for me at all, but can't handle them right now.

Need to keep being her friend, not mention it... keep making her smile and happy, help her through this and it should all work out.

Hard work. But I CAN do it.

NallaNeedsYou · Nov 7, 2008, 02:16 PM

Bravo! You have sorted out your own problem and you have answerd your own questions. Believe in yourself because you can do it! If you do what you say you need to everything will go as it is meant to. You are lucky to have someone as mature and loving as you are and I really hope in a couple of months time you will be able to send me an email telling me how its going. I hope I helped but really you have made this work for yourself and if you keep reacting to her moods and taking in what is being said you should get what you deserve for your steadfastness, comitment and diverse love.
Congrats!