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Leave him alone to get over your breaking up with him.

Concentrate on you and your studies and forget about a friendship for the moment,if it happens later,it happens.

[Alty]

I've been here and it didn't end well.

I met a guy in a bar, gave him my phone number, just to hang out. The next day he ended up at my house.

I wasn't looking for a serious relationship then, I just wanted to have fun. I told him that from minute one.

Well he starts to wine me and dine me, buy me gifts and then starts introducing me as his girl friend. What? When did that happen?

Every time I worked up the courage to tell him I wasn't interested in him that way, he'd take me out somewhere or buy me something and I'd feel guilty. He really was a nice guy.

So we ended up dating for 2 years. I cheated on him left right and center (Hey, I was a teen!) and finally he found out. He broke up with me. I was so relieved.

Then, after a few months, he called me up, "let's be friends". I agreed.

We decided to go out for dinner one night. After dinner he said that his parents had rented a hotel room and were having a party, he wanted to stop by. I said okay.

There were no friends at the hotel. He had rented it for us. He wanted to rekindle our relationship. When I said no he told me that he'd spent a lot of money on the room, on the champagne, on the chocolate covered strawberries and a gift (a necklace) that he had bought for me.

Pack your bags, we're going on a guilt trip. I slept with him and agreed to try again because I felt bad.

This time it didn't take long for me to come to my senses and realize that if I didn't break it off for good I'd probably end up marrying him out of guilt because he rented the haul, bought the rings and booked the honeymoon. ;)

Get out now. Trust me on this one.

[slapshot_oi]

I just did it, he was in shock, cried. He told me how so many women have done this to him. He says I was an amazing girl and he doesn't want to lose me. He still wants me to go to his friend's birthday party this weekend. I told him I just want to be friends. He insists I still go. I don't know if its a good idea??? What do you guys think? I have never tried to be friends with an ex. I don't know how it works and stuff.

Job done! And it's a bad idea to go to his party.

What is an acceptable amount of time to pass before a friendship could start?

Forget about being friends with him, he fell in love with you in five days for cryin' out loud. Just ignore him from here on out, don't say a word. Anything you say, even if you think it's harmless, will upset him.

I was this guy a year or two ago, I got the text-message break-up after two months and I haven't spoken to her since. I really liked her and I had reservations all along that I was a rebound. The point being, it was much easier to move on by not talking to her. We're not friends and never will be and last I checked she got married, so that's that.

[chickie543]

I feel really guilty today. He is a great guy and he has a great heart. He thinks something is wrong with him, and he's really insecure about depressed. I think breaking up with someone is just as hard as getting broken up with.

I saw on his face book he's posting things like, why can't I be an @$$hole like other guys. And stuff.. I feel bad poor guy :(

[talaniman]

You have a pretty good heart, so don't feel guilty for doing the right thing. Sometimes it ain't easy, but it's the right thing to do.

[Alty]

I feel really guilty today. He is a great guy and he has a great heart. He thinks something is wrong with him, and he's really insecure about depressed. I think breaking up with someone is just as hard as getting broken up with.

I saw on his face book he's posting things like, why can't i be an @$$hole like other guys. and stuff.. I feel bad poor guy :(

It would have been worse if you led him on for months and then finally broke it off. At least this way he didn't have as much invested in your relationship.

He sounds a bit needy and he really does rush things. He sounds desperate for love, not a good thing.

You did the right thing so don't feel bad. I know it's easier said then done, I always hated having to break up with someone. I sucked at it, would keep putting it off. You really did him a favor. :)