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Alwerd54 · Apr 30, 2009, 08:03 PM

Well I applied for the job. Got in the application just in time and received a call for an interview 5 minutes later. I decided that I wouldn't let what I do be based off what she's going to do. Plus, I didn't want to lose out on a prime opportunity to better my future. Even if things work out, I'm more then willing to find a way to make it work with us. But I won't tell her that. I'm not going to tell her that I applied or if I got the job. Don't want it to influence her decision. If she truly cares about us, then she too would find a way to make it work. Just have play the waiting game and see how things unfold...

Alwerd54 · May 2, 2009, 05:58 PM

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My girlfriend and I were on the NC for two weeks, it's only been 3 days and she decided to I.M me and talk. It was a normal good conversation, then she asked if we could get together, but to give each other our stuff back. I am heart broken. She said the break is great and she wants to be single and enjoy the summer, doesn't want to worry about a boyfriend or checking her cell phone every 5 minutes... even though she was the one who normally called or texted me all the time. I'm just so heart broken. I don't know what to do. I gathered up all her stuff and put it in a bag... I felt horrible doing it. I told her I had her stuff together if she wanted to get it tomorrow at work. She didn't care.. she's very short on her responses... she didn't even have the respect to do it in person or even on the phone.. that's what hurts the most.. she says she loves me and that she see's us together again, but not for a while... but yet she can't even do it in person? Or Vocally.. That's what hurts the most. I just don't get it.. we dated for almost a year and half, we were great together, had blast.. took trips.. got along with each others friends and constantly she would talk about the future, but I would always tel her let's not look at the future.. just enjoy the moment.. till eventually.. I too was thinking about the future.. We didn't see each other every day.. we hung out like once a week... I just don't get it.. This really hurts. This is worse then my previous relationship when I walked in on my ex girlfriend banging my best friend. Really makes me wonder if I'm suppose to be happy.. or if I'm suppose to be here at all. I hope things get better... I really do... everything that could go wrong this week, has.

sabrewolfe · May 2, 2009, 06:08 PM

Sorry to hear that. Things will get better, right now you are experiencing the initial part of the heart break. It will take some time to get easier to deal with. A few tips however, do not show how down hearted you feel about this to her and do not beg or bother her about it. It will only make it worse and make you feel worse. She did tell you she may get back together with you later down the line, so look at this time as an opportunity to do some things for yourself. Get in shape, meet new people, learn new things, and have some fun. The best thing you can do is to show her you are able to go on with your life. And could help to regain her attraction to you, or someone else. Take it easy, and try your best to do things to help keep your mind off it.

Alwerd54 · May 2, 2009, 06:15 PM

I'm trying... I just don't get how someone who says they "love you" can't even call or ask to talk in person... that's just messed up.

snow124 · May 2, 2009, 06:22 PM

Because it's the kind of love that they either don't feel, or the kind that isn't strong enough to not feel bad about breaking up with you but still expect to continue a friendship. It's not the love you have for her and you shouldn't expect it to be.

sabrewolfe · May 2, 2009, 06:23 PM

Originally Posted by Alwerd54

I'm trying... i just don't get how someone who says they "love you" can't even call or ask to talk in person... that's just messed up.

Your right buddy, that is messed up. All I can say about that is it's cowardly and shows a lack of respect for your feelings.

Alwerd54 · May 2, 2009, 06:26 PM

I would have done anything for this girl. Although I was very opinionated on topics and stood my ground, which her family always liked. I always made sure she put school and the sorority before us. I always made sure she got her stuff done, I put her life and school before my life and my school... I just hate it.. I moved down here.. everything I know.. everyone I know.. is because of her. Everyone treats me differently now.. it sucks.. I want nothing to do with this place

Alwerd54 · May 2, 2009, 06:38 PM

Just something I would have never expected from this girl... never.

sabrewolfe · May 2, 2009, 06:43 PM

Originally Posted by Alwerd54

Just something i would have never expected from this girl... never.

I know, no one ever expects it from some one they thought was in love with them.

none12345 · May 2, 2009, 06:45 PM

She loves you but she's not in love with you.

She broke up it off, its over and get on with your life. She's giving you little hope that you guys might get back together and she is holding you on a string making you wait. Don't let her trap you, the relationship is over.

She says she wants to be single. Just a question. What do single people do? They can flirt around or be with anyone or sleep with anyone they want without having any guilt. Just a thought.

Your title shouldn't be "my gf broke it off" it should be "my ex broke it off" because its over now bro.

talaniman · May 2, 2009, 07:54 PM

Break ups suck for sure, and even weirder is sometimes they happen without anything going wrong. Still sucks big time but it will be better later. Vent, mourn, heal and move on, as there will be other options and opportunities to be happy. You just have to get ready for them.

Alwerd54 · May 3, 2009, 12:59 AM

330 Am and I can't even sleep.

susangpyp · May 3, 2009, 04:25 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Break ups suck for sure, and even weirder is sometimes they happen without anything going wrong. Still sucks big time but it will be better later. Vent, mourn, heal and move on, as there will be other options and opportunities to be happy. You just have to get ready for them.

This is the most sage advice you're going to get in a nutshell. Do your grief work while finding new things to be interested (not women, but interests, hobbies, social groups).

It is better to be without someone than to be with someone who doesn't want to be in a relationship. There are times in life to explore and figure out all that life has to offer. For her, this is that time. It's not always a bad thing. You might find this to be an incredible opportunity later on. Right now it's too painful but you can and will get over this!

Alwerd54 · May 3, 2009, 05:12 AM

I know life moves on. It's just getting over the grief that is so hard. I hope I get this new job so I can move on with my life and move away from all this.

Alwerd54 · May 5, 2009, 09:53 AM

Things have gotten better. Everyday, I feel a little better. I start to forget and slowly my love for her is fading. I have a new job, a new place to live, and a new beginning to look forward to. We haven't talked in a few days and I'm okay with that. I keep telling myself that I have to let go and move on, she has. If she truly cared, this would have never happened and she would have called.

none12345 · May 5, 2009, 02:33 PM

You are on the right path now. Just enjoy your life and don't contact her at all or else you ll be back at square one with the pain.

Alwerd54 · May 5, 2009, 06:05 PM

Fine till she randomly texts me.. She texted me and is like "congrats on the new job, goodluck with that" blah blah blah.. but the way she words stuff is like she could careless, but she feels its her moral obligation as a person to say something to me... its messed up and painful

Triysle · May 5, 2009, 06:07 PM

Originally Posted by Alwerd54

Fine till she randomly texts me.. She texted me and is like "congrats on the new job, goodluck with that" blah blah blah.. but the way she words stuff is like she could careless, but she feels its her moral obligation as a person to say something to me... its messed up and painful

Don't think anything of it. Smile, and go on with your day ;)

~ Tee

Alwerd54 · May 6, 2009, 10:01 AM

Yeah.. then my buddy called and texted her asking her what her problem was... Not a good idea... I got a call 15 minutes later Saying I needed to get him to stop or else. That had I not jumped to conclusions, we'd be back together already. Bad bad bad bad night

Triysle · May 6, 2009, 10:07 AM

Originally Posted by Alwerd54

Yeah.. then my buddy called and texted her asking her what her problem was... Not a good idea... i got a call 15 minutes later Saying i needed to get him to stop or else. That had I not jumped to conclusions, we'd be back together already. Bad bad bad bad night

Lol, she's manipulating you dude. You didn't jump to any conclusions. If she didn't know for sure that she wanted you then you aren't obligated to wait around on her to figure it out. If she thinks that she's entitled to that, then you are definitely better off without her ;)

Btw, "taking a break" and "broken up" are the same thing. If the person doesn't want to be with you, then that's that. I wish people would realize that sooner, it saves so much time and heartbreak!

Just ignore her, and don't let your friends get involved. She's just mad because she can't control you.

~ Tee