[forreal]

talaniman,

Where are these adult men who will wait??

[PurpLePassion]

Don't let them pressure you about sex... do what you feel is right. I think you do need some experience though... umm and as far as guys not hitting on you... maybe you should try a makeover? Lol I don't know. You'll be okay though!

[talaniman]

talaniman,

where are these adult men who will wait??????

Doing things they enjoy, and building a life that makes them happy.

[Nostradamus_pk]

Hello,

I said I would be willing to do oral sex but not unless it was LONG term (2-3 months) and Evan said it's not enough. He said marriage is certainly not an option in this day and age because guys like to test out the merchandise before buying; if I won't have sex there are girls that will, etc. )

You consider 2-3 months long term!
Evan needs help himself. Take it from a 28/m virgin

I wish you good luck

[KellyAlexander]

HA! Your friend is an IDIOT! Yeah some guys won't date a girl if she doesn't put out but is that really the type of guy you want? You want a man who can't remember your name but always remembers the color of your undies? Hell no you don't! Don't feel pressured sweets! Stay who you are and you have sex when you are ready! I think your amazing! Oh and about dating a church boy... if they are too uptight and whatnot try going to a non denomination church. If you live in a big city then you know that there are all kinds of trendy churches you can go to that do not follow the norms! Good luck and keep us posted when you find that someone!

[Ahappyman]

Some people and websites unfortunately do not see virginity as a value. There is a brand new site though which looks friendly to virgins. You may want to Google under virgin2virgin. Or also I agree with the person who stated that there are virgin men available in a church setting. Actually, my wife and I met at a church. I was virgin and my wife was a virgin too at the time of our marriage. My wife was almost 29 and I was 34 then. We were obviously both sexually inexperienced, but that is no longer an issue and we both are VERY satisfied in this area. So don't despair. Best wishes!

[chuff]

talaniman,

where are these adult men who will wait??????

Right here baby.

[KellBells17]

Ok, I don't mean to offend anyone, but your friends advice is stupid, and please don't listen to him. I am 26 and still a virgin. I actually had a similar experience in high school just like yours - I was left with a guy while my friend and her boyfriend went and had sex... then I was invited in the room to join in (I didn't end up joining in, but did stuff with the one guy in that room and finally had to stop). I feel like it's affected me my whole life to when it comes to men, and I haven't been able to hold a relationship over a few weeks because I always freak out about the sex stuff and run away. What I'm doing is moving on with MY life, and focusing on the things I love. Because of that, I do get a attention, and I'm working on trying to get past my fears. I'm also going to go to counseling, which is never a bad thing, no matter what someone tells you. Don't worry about being a virgin at 28, because the perfect guy will come along and he's going to love that about you (there are guys still out there who are genuine and like that in a woman). So, my advice, just enjoy life. Do what you love, and love will find you. Don't worry about the jerks out there who only want sex... they're not worth a long term relationship anyway! You can do it girlie, just have faith!

[Crazy Ivan]

Doing things they enjoy, and building a life that makes them happy.

Perfect answer!

[Crazy Ivan]

Hi Mimibutterfly,
I respect that you are willing to share your personal life with complete strangers and hear what they have to say!

In my experience it was not until I started taking chances, taking steps out of my comfort zone and meeting people that I really discovered who I am, what I am comfortable with and what I really want out of life. I know how you feel, but there is for sure hope. If you listen to your heart, go out, have fun and do things you enjoy and discover new things you will be happier, confident and more experienced. Eventually, you and your happy self will meet a guy and he will see all of the beauty you have to offer. It takes many steps to reach marriage but each one is important. Happiness can always be found in the moment, right now. It doesn't require anything extraordinary.

Good luck!

[Torrid13]

Wow, your friend is the most ignorant and clueless moron I've almost ever heard in my life.

I think it's great that you've stuck to your guns about waiting for marriage; it shows you have goals and are willing to achieve them. Anyway, I know a lot of guys that would actually PREFER virgins because there's so much sleeping around that they're kind of paranoid about STD's and whatnot.

But in general, guys don't care. If a guy leaves you because you're not "putting out," he's a jerkwad that you don't need in your life anyway. Don't give into the pressure that you absolutely HAVE to have sex with a boyfriend, or you won't be a good girlfriend. The right guy for you will love and care for you whether you sleep with him during dating or waiting until marriage.

Don't be discouraged. And I would suggest seeking counseling for your past experiences. Past experiences DO affect us, and sometimes in ways we don't even realize.

Also, have confidence in yourself! You're just as pretty, if not prettier than your friends, and deserving of love and commitment!

Keep your chin up, and good luck!

[lonelyguy28]

I'm 28-year old male and still a virgin, never been in a relationship, never had female friends. I had male friends at school and university (graduate and post-graduate) but since they all had girlfriends and experiences I was always feeling embarrassed so I stopped seeing them and I have no friends now. I get depressed too and I cry, but I've told nobody. I too would love to have a family after finding the right one, but I have no social life and I dislike dating websites, so I'm afraid I'll die a virgin :(

[smoothy]

I'm 28-year old male and still a virgin, never been in a relationship, never had female friends. I had male friends at school and university (graduate and post-graduate) but since they all had girlfriends and experiences I was always feeling embarrassed so I stopped seeing them and I have no friends now. I get depressed too and I cry, but I've told nobody. I too would love to have a family after finding the right one, but I have no social life and I dislike dating websites, so I'm afraid I'll die a virgin :(

YOU should get into counseling ASAP as these are not normal thought patterns and will feed on themselves. Meaning bad habbits (or in this case behavioural issue) that reinforce other bad habits (or behavioural issues).

[Profile]

I think you should not allow yourself to be influenced by your friends. You are something special and are worth a lot more than you think you are. Keep holding on and the one will come along one day. Not all men are dogs.

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