[socratesimnot]

I think I am getting a clearer picture of your husband and your life.

My father was a principled man but he did not love my mother. He told me he wanted out, years ago, but he stayed with her first for us and then because his business was in a very small town and she'd get the house and alimony and he'd be in a dumpy apartment, if he could even find one.

She had an all out affair and tried to get that man to divorce his wife and marry her, but he refused. My father never cheated or did anything but be handsome and sweet and that drove women wild. (Yes, I am biased, and that probably affects how I saw your hubby at first.)

Oh, I see that I totally mis-spoke and misunderstood.

[joypulv]

I think we all misunderstand at times, online, when we don't really know the other person.