[SDSFive]

Pretty straight forward situation just curious to as to what you all think.


Im 22, finishing up school, and so is she. We had a class together that's how we met. After about a month or two I invited her out to a concert, we both had a really good time. I haven't had that good of a time on a date in a while. She was asking about things like my past relationships, she seemed pretty interested in my dating history. ( good or bad?)
She mentioned that she stayed with her ex because she was afraid of being alone. (red flag?)

We had some drinks at a party after the show, and ended up kissing, and generally being pretty damn flirty with each other. The thing is though we were both tipsy and Im into this girl so I don't want to take things to fast.

Now the tricky part.

We don't have class together anymore so the only way for us to see each other is if we plan it, and I want to see her, but I don't want to seem like I'm coming on too strong.

So how should I approach this? What do you think>? I realize I'm thinking into this a lot but this is one of the rare ones that come around and I really don't want to it up haha.

[JBeaucaire]

Calling up a girl and asking her out on a planned date is NOT coming on too strong.

Complimenting a girl's looks, activities, involvements... that's NOT coming on strong if the compliments are simple and sincere.

Pawing all over her every date, getting desperate if she isn't available every time you ask, acting like she already owes you anything because you've gone out a time or two... THAT'S coming on too strong.

You can be normal, right? You can go to dinner and a movie and not come home thinking your universe has just been created, right? You can just go on dates and enjoy each other's company and then plan something again later... right? You can do these things... RIGHT?

She's not a rare one. Neither are you. You are two normal, calm, busy people who are going to try to SANELY squeeze in some non-ohmygod-I-can't-live-without-you time with one another.

Right?

You're right, you're overthinking this. Cut it out. Be a calm, centered person.

[EN Ken]

I wouldn't worry too much about coming on too strong.

In general, when a girl is attracted to you, as long as you don't do anything really outrageous, it's very hard to mess it up.

If you ask her out to a movie or just to chat over coffee that's pretty low-key and casual and cannot, in anyway, be interpreted as coming off too strong. Coming off too strong in this instance would be to invite her to a weekend in Paris or something equally extravagant.

Simply pick something the two of you guys can do that will allow you to get to know each other and spend some time together.

Good luck and have fun.

[irene94]

Well it depend most girls need you too make that frist step what if she thinks the same thing girls always wait for guys too make there move take a chance if you don't you will always ask yourself what if

[AWess]

Wait, didn't you say she had a boyfriend??

[smitttyx2]

Well simply this you have her phone number right(cell) text her. See what she's doing that's definitely not coming on too strong and if u text or talk enough plan something