Originally Posted by
talaniman
Why is it you don't believe he loves you and cares? You make no mention of any behavior that supports this so it must be something you're not telling... Make sure you're not all tired out and don't forget to make time for yourself and the two of you. Keep the attitude POSITIVE!!!
A lot has to do with my past issues and relationships, a failed marriage that was abusive (16 yeas)... you are so right, it isn't his burden to make me happy. Why I doubt his love? Maybe because he doesn't seem to want to make time the two of us. When he gets overly tired or stressed he withdraws and lives on the computer when he is home. This time it has lasted over 2 months. Myself esteem is low. Not to his fault. I haven't given up on the blending... it's very hard. His daughters were so used to having their way and their mother is such a great manipulator that they have leaned this art themselves, especially the oldest. (she is 19 yeas old) I thought things would be a little easier when she moved out since we all had to walk on eggshells aound her. I have tried to talk to him but I guess I just come across wrong to him and he gets defensive. Maybe if I back off fom him and let him wok out whatever it is he is going though, things will get better again. However, I don't like living with someone and not communicating. I am very confused and upset regarding this.