I presume your body is just fine when he's horny.
This isn't about your body, this is about him picking away at you, knowing what buttons to push, and enjoying the aftermath of seeing you feel and behave as though something is wrong with YOU.
He has your own self confidence, self esteem, and sense of self, all tied to his approval. He could easily pick any number of things, once he has you believing that you somehow have 'faults' that only he can judge and approve or disprove of. If you were to suddenly tell him to go to hell, and begin criticizing HIS body, he would only find another way to control you emotionally- the way you walk, the way you cook, dress, apply makeup, clean the house, etc. It becomes like swatting flies, you no sooner squash one controlling behaviour, and a bunch more pop up.
What generally drives a man to control a woman (or woman controlling a man), is to diminish their sense of self worth, to a point where they are dependent upon their mate, for a stamp of approval. Without that continuous need to please, a sense of self eventually disappears, and who you feel you are, is dependent upon what another decides it should be.
Please think about the bigger picture here, and what type of man he truly is. Imagine a life with such a man, who can control you with words, and think about the fact that he is just as determined to control you, as you are to please him. That creates a very unhealthy, unbalanced, and unequal relationship, where only one person's needs are met- his.
Going tit for tat with him will only escalate his need to control. You could fight back, stand up for yourself, attack his personality, undermine his sense of confidence, etc. but I guarantee you, you will not win, and any minor victories will be short lived. All you would be teaching him, is to try harder, and it would be a very unnatural behaviour from you.
You cannot change him. The only person who can change is you, and it has nothing to do with losing a few pounds.
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