I feel bad after turning down a guy- but I felt he was a bit obsessive: advice
I went out with a group of friends and one of my friends brought along his guy friend. We talked and danced a little bit but that's as far as it went. He seemed nice and intelligent and he's friends with a friend of mine, so I thought it was fine to give him my number. But, then I noticed he became very pushy. I told him I was leaving the club and he asked me several times to come stay at his place. I told him no the first time and pretended I didn't hear him afterwards. Then when I got home later that night, he sent me a text asking if I arrived home all right. I thought that was sweet. Then the next day he sent my a text asking when we'd have coffee. A few hours later, he called me (I hadn't texted him back yet), but I ignored the call. Later that day I texted him saying that I was free the following weekend. He then called me not long after and wanted to have coffee with me earlier in the week. But, he said he could only meet me after 6 pm because he works during the day. I didn't really want to see him so soon, because I just met him and I only wanted to have coffee with him in the daytime. I agreed anyway, I felt pressured on the phone to agree. The next day, I didn't feel right about it, so I told him I was busy this week with study and would let him know when I'd be free. He then called me later that night at 11pm twice. I didn't answer the phone. Then the next day, he called me again, and texted me asking if I had a lot of study that day. I didn't respond to either. Then on that very same day he sent me another text saying he wants to have dinner with me at 8pm. I finally sent him a text and told him I couldn't make dinner tonight but thanks for the offer and that I have a lot going on at the moment, take care. Was this too harsh or did I do the right thing? I thought when I told him I'd contact him when I was free, that he'd get the hint or stop being so pushy. He kind of freaked me out with all his phone calls and even when he asked me out, it sounded weird like: when are we having coffee and I'd be glad to have dinner with you tonight at 8. I don't know maybe I'm overreacting?
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