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I appreciate your answers and they make me feel better. I have a lot going on in my life actually, been busy almost every day so far this summer, but I'm guessing the core of the problem might be...

All right guys, I went through a bad breakup some two years ago and you helped me tremendously then, so I'm hoping you can help me again!

So here's the deal, I started dating my current girlfriend...

LOL straight on brother.
Third year of electrical engineering here. Out of 80 students there's like 2 women.

I'm sorry to say so Trevor but if you still haven't admitted to yourself that yes, this is indeed it, then that is probably the reason there's not been too much emotional improvement on your part....

Don't dwell too much on it, Trevor.
I also used to spent countless hours trying to decypher every little bit of information my ex gave me back then, but in the end it just wasn't worth it.

She...

Wow... Gearhead, I'm sorry for you. I really am.
I've been paying so much attention to your story that I felt like a part of me died when you finally said she was with someone else and a part of me...

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
I for one find nothing attractive about the blond-haired bimbo type with spray on tans.

Then again I hardly find anyone really "attractive" unless I'm...

You know gearhead, I think I sent that exact letter to my ex, and I've regretted it ever since -_-.

And I mean, it's almost an exact replica. It's almost kind of freaky. It did help me get some...

Well it will probably hurt her feelings somewhat, since at the moment she wants you there as a friend. Operative word being friend, she wants you there as a friend and nothing more. I can however...

No, you wouldn't. You would want her to be there for you, and that's just the thing. She wants you to be there for her, without her "being there for you". It's an unfair tradeoff, and you can not let...

I'm no expert and it's really too hard to tell what this was really about. I mean she's young and being "in the mood" isn't exactly something that rarely happens. I've gotten a few of those "phone...

Hey, Trevor! (Or, I guess Gearhead translated from leetspeak).

I'm sorry I didn't catch this thread earlier, I wish I had, because most of the advice I can give you is now already given, but I'll...

Don't put too much thought into it, Toronto. Women are very much different but if there's any one thing I learnt about my ex ever since she broke up with me it's that every time she contacts me she...

You need to realize that the only reaosn you still want to be friends with her is not because you want her as a friend.
It's because you still love her, and as a result you're very curious about...

I hear you man, Hjpan. Personally I'm working on christmas eve, alone that is (work part time at a gas station). Kind of sad, it's going to feel lonely.

Now on the topic of ex-girlfriends (and...

I think that's a thing that varies from person to person Hjpan. Personally I've not been with anyone else since me and my ex broke it off.

Quite frankly, although I'm done being sad about it, I'm...

I don't know Bigbird. NC ended for me a couple of days ago as well, think it had been going for 3 or 4 months, I'm not entirely sure.
My ex contacted me and needed help because her internet had...

I guess I might as well throw myself on the bandwagon of people who have been in that exact situation. We all know it hurts, but we all also know how much better it gets.

For me, personally, the...

It's always hard when you manage to change too late. The same thing happened with me and my ex, but you have to ask yourself the question: Why didn't you change back then?

The answer is usually...

Even though all of us right now are moving on, I can't help but think that there's naturally going to be others who will need this calendar days in the future. I say keep it a sticky to be fair, it...

Been a solid five weeks of NC for me now (I think?) but it's rather hard to know as I haven't really been counting. At first I was reluctant to believe the whole: "One month for every year of...

When you're saying "not the relationship because I deserve better", are you entirely certain you don't actually mean that it's the relationship you miss, and not him?
If you truly believe you...

Wait... WHAT?
JESUS CHRIST WHAT?

That's got to be the most agitating thing I've read on these forums, ever!
I would hold barely no respect for any person who could say such a thing after doing...

I agree with most people in here that it's probably a bad idea to meet your ex. It's fair enough that you can say you're completely over him, and we all believe you, particularly because you're the...

Thanks for all the input guys, your words really help. It's not so much that she's dating someone else that bothers me the most, I've come to terms with the fact that our relationship is over and I...

I must apolagize for hijacking this thread per se but I just felt like I needed to vent, once again. So I just found out my ex is seeing some other guy. It struck like a bolt of lightning at first,...

Not sure I read your question right, but if this is about people, ex'es or whatever, that keep stringing you along yet never have any real intention of being with you or being real friends, then I'm...

Day 19 of NC. Had real urges to contact her today.
I guess in a good way, I didn't want to contact her in order to plea for her to take me back, because I was wondering how she was doing, or even...

Man, I know exactly how you feel. For the last couple of days I've been having the same dreams, and waking up in the morning is truly depressing when I have to go over the whole: "Oh wait, she isn't...

I know how you feel Fred. Also feeling very alone these days, haven't contacted her in 14 days today but she contacted me some five days ago, at least I kept my cool and didn't give her what she...

Good for you! You seem to have developed a stronger personality as a result from the grief and misery he put you through. From what I hear of your story, he's being very manipulative and basically...

I hate to break this to you but being needy is probably the worst thing you could've done. I realize that a part of you still wants contact with your ex. After all, when it comes to people you care...

I feel for you man, but you have to hang in there. I agree with you that sleeping is the hardest part, I have troubles there as well. What helped for me was sleeping on my couch and letting the TV...

I actually had this. I was convinced almost all my life that I would die the age of 20. I have no real idea why, it just seemed so typical. I've always been a very careful and happy person and I love...

I was hoping you guys were wrong but I think you may be right. My mind has started making scenarios. As previously what annoys me the most is the loss of respect for my girlfriend. A part of me is...

I think a big part of the reason why this happens is because quite frankly, treating women like a queen, and putting her on a pedestal is eventually going to drive her away.

The same happened with...

I know how you're feeling man. Me and my girlfriend also dated for four and a half years and we broke up some 2-3 weeks ago. Basically for the first few weeks there was a thought in the back of my...

Thanks for all your help guys! It's very much appreciated. My internet went down last night straight after posting that and it was pretty much killing me not being able to read your replies when I...

Oh god damnit. 9 days of NC, feeling slightly better, and my girlfriend breaks it. She starts talking to me on msn out of nowhere. The funny part was it started pretty casual like "How are you...

Keep going man! You're well on your way!

Personally today it's been exactly one week of NC for me now. I've had my ups and downs, some days better than others. The last couple of days have been...

This post helped me a lot. Today I woke up a reborn man, and although me and my girlfriend have only been broken up for two weeks, today was the first day I can honestly say it didn't bother me that...

Today is being a right for some reason. It's not that I want to call her it's just that I really miss what we had together. I really really want to be able to go to bed today and wake up next to...

On my fourth day of NC now. Yesterday I was completely fine, without a care in the world, today I feel really shot down. It's hard to explain really, I think it's because of the weekend, knowing that...

I am personally exactly like that. I know that I'll never fully get over my girlfriend until I find someone else. Until then every recent memory I have of physical contact and intimacy is going to be...

Keep going, man. Personally I can't even begin to comprehend the pain you must be feeling. I'm feeling like hell and me and my girlfriend left on good terms, even though for me it did feel like it...

Sorry to "steal" the topic but I kind of had to enquire:
I did a couple of the afformentioned things. Of course, by now I didn't need anyone to mention to me that it was an idiotic thing to do, I...

Don't do it man. I know exactly how you feel. I'm having my ups and downs personally. I constantly think about calling my ex, and just as with you she suddenly dumped me and moved on, and it felt...

I'm not sure if this helps you to understand any better Lost4, but I gathered that from my girlfriends side, all the times she said she loved me, the trips we were planning and all the talk about...

I feel with you man. My girlfriend of 5 years also kind of suddenly broke up with me, got on with her life and is out partying and being social only a week after we broke up, meanwhile I'm standing...

We were together for four years. We broke up just a week ago, I'm starting NC today. I think you can pretty easily guess what my answer to your other questions are.

Personally I'm feeling much of...