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Hey there, I hope all goes well for you and you're a good advert for NC! : )

Sounds like the guy may be thinking the same way you are but T-man is right you have got to a place where you can make...

Well nobody can tell you what to do on here they can merely advise you, its your life do what you want... my only advice would be if you want to do it then do it but expect nothing in return and if...

It was my birthday last Monday and I received an email from my ex (who dumped me 6 months ago) wishing me a happy birthday, the reason she emailled me was because she deleted my number and wanted me...

Its been a while since I posted but since this is a scenario I have just played out I'm going to say my piece.

It was my birthday last Monday and I received an email from my ex (who dumped me 6...

Well I emailled her through Facebook saying I can't do the friend thing as it just confuses me as to what she wants and if its only friendship she wants then to never contact me again as its too hard...

Well I didn't expect to be over it in two months we were together 7 years!

At first I asked her back and she said no, so I went n/c then she broke it and asked to be friends and I said no because...

So a week and a half after texting me all weekend and I stopped texting her because I didn't want to get too friendly with her... she had added me on Facebook again! 3 weeks after I rejected her last...

UPDATE

Well I hadn't heard anything from my ex then on Friday night she texys me out of the blue about something random, I didn't reply so she text again... I then replied and she spent the whole...

I agree 100%

I can't stop my ex from getting in touch. This is the third time I've told her I won't be friends but she just won't stop

I asked her back in December she sadi no so I said don't...

What I can't understand is why my ex added me on Facebook when she did the dumping and said no when I asked her back, she's asked me to be friends and I said no for the third time today... if she...

I suppose so, but its better than her pushing the friend thing every few weeks... it also implies that I'm trying to move on, if I couldn't move on id be her friend.

I had to end the confusion....

She'll be thinking what a w@nker at the moment, she'll be huffed because I said no to being put to one side for whenever she likes... I know what she's like she'll expect me to contact her soon......

Yeah I have been totally focused on her, I've been doing things in the hope I'll get a reaction... I won't.

Well me and my friends are going to book a holiday in the next few weeks and I'm going...

She won't react, at least not today... she'll probably wait another three weeks and ask to be my friend again lol!

She knows now its all or nothing between us now, if she don't want it its her...

Yeah I've been trying to do that, I've been trying no contact for about 6 weeks and she broke it with a chain text on new year, then I saw her on the train, I broke it by texting her my new number...

Saw the ex on the train and chatted, got to work and there was a text ''nice to see you today, sorry things didn't work out between us I hope we can eventually be friends''

I replied Sorry but no,...

Saw the ex on the train today and chatted, got to work (we work next to eachother) and there was a text ''nice to see you today, sorry things didn't work out between us I hope we can eventually be...

The Facebook thing is sorted, saw the ex on the train and chatted, got to work and there was a text ''nice to see you today, sorry things didn't work out between us I hope we can eventually be...

Just keep going, see how things pan out, tomorrow you could meet a guy that may blow you away!

Keep trying to heal, no contact all tof the way! It's the comfort of somebody you miss not him......

Worried that he's been to harsh, you'll meet someone better, you'll meet someone before he does, there's a few!

We all get mixed messages that why were all on her trying to help each other figure...

Be strong you've only just begun to heal, it's a very confusing time, I don't know why or how you split but from experience you both are desperate for each other like withdrawals that or they were...

Believe me I can't figure out mine never mind anybody else's!

Just stick at it... im no expert like tman and George but just bear in mind every situation is different and never make snap...

Chin up my friend, a lot of people here are in the same boat at the moment. It's a confusing time for us all and our rational thoughts sometime go out of the window. Stick at it, look at me yesterday...

I don't want my heart to rule my head, so I'm taking some time to think about it, I don't want to make any snap decisions... I do want her back, seven years is a long time to be together.

I was...

I just don't really know what to do for the best don't want to be hurt but don't want to close the door completely I do still love her

I wish you all of the luck in the world my friend, do you want her back or are you past that? Just trying to get as much opinion as possible spoke to a few friends as well

Oh I'm not making a snap decision, just parculiar after she admitted we can't be friends... is she just wanting to know what I'm up to

So what do you suggest?

Fishing for what? I haven't responded so far I at least think id sleep on it tonight at the very least

My ex has just added me on Facebook, despite me deleting her a couple of weeks after we split up and her even admitting herself I can't be friends it's a bit of a dilemma

Five weeks of not...

My ex has just added me on Facebook, despite me deleting her a couple of weeks after we split up and her even admitting herself I can't be friends it's a bit of a dilemma

My ex has just added me on Facebook, despite her admitting herself I can't be friends it's a bit of a dilemma

I hope so George, I can't go on living my life like this I'm in complete disarray! My work is suffering, I don't go out very often at all, I can't exercise because I have a bad hip... my parents...

I mean I said it but I can't do it... ive fought with myself all day not to contact her, again, same as yesterday... all id like is to see her face and hear her voice, its madness, she'll probably...

Im confused now, people who want their ex's back should try and make things up with them? Is that what your saying?

I thought every time you broke no contact it pushed them away, as I've seen on...

I think there are a lot of people similar to me on this site, I've seen so many threads from people that are at my stage of a break up... it doesn't matter how long you went out it still hurts.
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When you dump someone you care about you don't want them to hurt, you feel sorry for them and guilty you did it... I think that's why a lot of dumpers want to be friends, but unintentionally they...

I thought the pain would have subsided by now... it hasn't, I'm still as hurt as I was a few weeks after the split! Just going to try and get my head down for a while, get on with finding a better...

Id keep clear of talking about your ex unless her mother mentions it... you won't achieve anything by asking how she is, you'll find very little out and have another crisis of sorts with all the...

nah I don't think I will, I keep thinking about the threads I've read about n/c saying like ''every time you break n/c it lowers you in value'' stuff like that is stopping me from doing anything...

I must admit that I have found today a real struggle! Mondays are the worst... I think it may be because the weekend has been and that's when I'm most interested about what she may be doing. Ive been...

I agree totally with what you said relationships are hard to keep together especially if you've been together a long time, you have to work extra hard to keep some spark... but even if your ex...

Nearly everybody on here want their ex back myself included... but each situation is different and the people that are further down the line can see more clearly what might happen so they give you...

viva, id walk away from this guy he's chosen someone else... you will pine for him and you will be confused for a while but if you stay there your doing two things:

1) Hurting yourself by being...

I'm similar to that... my ex's friends all have boyfriends that cheat on them or treat them bad... on of her friends boyfriend was texting another of her friends asking for sex and she still forgave...

You'll be all right Romefalls... if you get lonely come on here and spill your guts that's what I do! Look I won't lie to you your in for a tough and confusing time but stick at it.

As for me I'm...

This is the worst time for me the weekend, its when I feel at my lonliest for some reason... during the week I'm at work then I'm tired on the nights so I just laze around but at the weekend when I...

Well it is a rocky road and I know I can't just rid myself of thoughts about a girl that was my best friend, my world even for six years after just three months... it will take time but I know me...

You will never know, none of us do I know people that never thought their ex would caome back but they did and they tried again... also I know people who's ex's came back to find it was too late!...

If I'm honest I still want her back but I'm trying to take steps now that I've been frightened of in the past instead of waiting instead of hoping/waiting for her to come back I'm actively seeking to...