I think you should just date him once,
And see if you like him.
If you don't, just be friends.
If you do, just keep dating him until he asks you to do something.
How do you pick a hamster without letting it normal? It is pretty hard! Pick the hamster's favorite food first, slowly put your hand in. Hamsters don't like fast movements. I bet you don't either!
I think you should be slow moving and put your hand gently into the cage with the food it likes, not your hand though. It will get use to you if you do that a lot. I do that to my hamster. Now it is...