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Just a little update,

She blocked me on Facebook, I figure it's because she saw me post some pics of me doing fine and I did some long distance cycling and posted stats with runkeeper.

I...

I knew it was over before the dump day because she was taking cymbalta for 2 or 3 years and she was never herself again, and was always negative and only saw the negatives in our relationship, she...

She didn't ask for her stuff when they spoke 3 days earlier, or else I would have gave them to her.I don't need drama, I want to close this chapter for good and move on.I have nothing good to expect...

Update, I got all my stuff back, except for 1 item, she spoke with my aunt, apparently all her family was there, she told my aunt it is over and she had moved on.

She also told her she will call...

I have no expectations, I just did not want to drive there myself and get my stuff because it's an hour away and I don't want to see her.

I don't want to remember that day when she took all my...

All right guys I have an update, my aunt called my ex today and they spoke, apparently she was expecting me to call her? She is wondering why I haven't called...

Why is she expecting my call if...

I just don't want to ruin the progress I made, and talking to her or seeing her too soon might make me get depressed again, it's just a risk I am not willing to take right now.

She wanted a break...

My pleasure, I will update you guys when I decide to go get all my stuff back, which I am thinking of doing in maybe 15 days from today. Since we still need some no contact to continue progress, and...

Thanks for the advice everyone it's appreciated, I am on 1 month of no contact today and I am doing much better, I have started talking to other women on a dating site, and I am accepting that the...

You know very well what I mean, women don't like men who don't lead. They want a confident guy who knows where he's going and takes the lead in the relationship.

I don't mean bossy or...

I would like to see our dog again, but I don't want her to think it's an excuse to try to get back together. I been doing no contact for a month now, last contact was a text message on her birthday....

You are absolutely right, unfortunately I always end up with these type of women, who want me to pay the bills.

For the dog I paid half of the bill and I was paying the dog food too. And I raised...

I forgot to mention we also have a dog we got together 3 years ago. She tried to get me emotional by sending me pics of our dog by text. In 5 days I will be 30 days of NC.

Thanks for the tip Tal,

The way I see it, it was a good lesson in life and I learned a lot from this relationship, I made a mistake of not keeping her interest level high enough by getting too...

Hi Joy, The other reason I could not move is my parents are getting old and they need my help, that's why I wanted her to move here with me, they own an apartment complex and I do the maintenance,...

I don't think being friends is a good idea, I have thought about it and she will just use me to tell me her problems like a psychologist, I did that during the relationship and I comforted her in...

Ok let me clarify,
She has a house up north and I have an apartment 1 hour away from her. I brought the bench at her place so she can use it too, because we had like a little gym room in her...

I implemented no contact after the first week of the break because we both needed time and space to reflect on the relationship. So now it's been a month we haven't spoke. I only broke it by text to...

I decided to do a no contact break from June 3rd until today, I only broke it on June 10th to text her happy birthday but no kisses. She wanted me to take her out on her birthday when we were still...

Hello,

Once again I end up in a difficult situation, girlfriend decided she wanted a break because she starting a new job, she tells me this over the phone, I tell her I am coming over to get by...

It's tempting to go back, what if I go back and reconciliate and it works out. What if people change for the better. I am almost in same situation, my ex wrote me an email last week and wanted to...

Well I spoke to her and I told her the truth, I told her I have a girlfriend I been seeing for 3 years and she told me she could not find a guy to have a long lasting relationship and she is still...

That can be very possible too, because I know for a fact she always had casual relationships before dating me and I was her first serious boyfriend, maybe after me she was always finding casual...

Hi Talaniman, been a long time eh, 6 years flew by so fast.

I don't see anything bad of her reaching out to me, because we did not end the relationship in a bad way, there wasn't any hurt...

Hi guys,

What does it mean when an ex writes an email and says they want to catch up? Is it just to see what your doing in your life or do they want to get back together?

Yeah I agree KC, probably for her a way of getting closure, although I believe you can lose attraction after a break up, I don't think losing feelings or love for someone can be done that quickly,...

I totally agree with you Tal, I think it's an attempt to remove some of her guilt, because she admitted that she is hurting a lot.
And why would I want to text her or talk to her? Doesn't make any...

Hey guys, I need some advice, new developments, after 14 days straight of no sign of life, she finally budged yesterday.
I got a long text message from her saying: "that she feels bad about the...

Your probably right, she did sound confused, and she been confused since at least 4 months, I will disappear from her life and I have been doing no contact since she broke up, deleted all contacts,...

Thanks Tal, your right, I feel better today, I thought I was going to be depressed again and not be able to function, but I guess because it's the 3rd time in 10 months she tried to end it, enough is...

Hi friends, recently my girlfriend moved out of her moms place to get her own place and yesterday after only 10 days in her new place, she decided to break up with me. Her family did not like me and...

I am not going to write anything and no picture, she said she wanted a break to think, so that's what she will have. Yes I feel guilty because I told her to go back to her mom's place if she feels...

OK I won't send it. She has chosen to be away from me, so that's what she will get. I told her I don't believe in breaks cause I know 90% of the time they don't come back or they meet someone else. I...

But how long should we cool off ? It's been 4 days we did not speak...

Yeah your right, because when we argued I told her that maybe it was best she go back to her moms place because I was tired of her wanting to bail out and pack her things. So I pushed it too far by...

Good idea, how to discuss without bailing out and finding solutions or compromises.

The thing is, that I am not sure if it is a break or a break up, she said she loves me and she would like to come back strong without getting urges to pack her bags and leave when we argue.

She...

Is it bad to say that I love her and miss her in the email with picture?

What's funny is that my mother was good friends with her and she is telling me that I should send her an e-mail saying I am sorry and feel bad about what happened and tell her that I love her and...

Why do I feel like if I do no contact, we will both lose interest in each other and feelings will fade away and chances we will get back together with be very slim...

She broke up and said she needs some time to herself to think what went wrong and why she kept wanting to pack her bags at every argument we had... She asked if she could keep calling me and I said...

I still think of my ex too sometimes and it's been almost 2 years since break up. But I met someone on April fool day. It will be 4 months on August 1st that we are together. She is amazing, we have...

I don't believe the part "it's affecting her grades in school" that is pure BS, I mean what is she 15 years old?
Second, when they disappear for 2 or 3 weeks, it is possible there was another guy...

Thanks guys, it helped, I think I am at a point of no return, even if she would call me now, I would not be able to go back. Too much time has passed. I also met a great girl that I really get ...

Happy new year 2010 to all. I was thinking of my ex today, so I decided to come here and post. It will be a year soon since the breakup. Feb 14.

I am doing a lot better, hope you guys are doing...

Wow, you had guts to see her again and go out for dinner with her. I could never do that with an ex. Once it's over and I know she been with other guys I cannot go back. Must be a territorial thing I...

Yes it helped, what did not help is that every time I tried to get in a new relationship with a new girl and it failed, it brought me back to hating and thinking of my ex.

It made me feel like she...

Whatever!

Wow you read 30 pages, that means you did have interest! Busted!

Look some people here make typo mistakes, no need to rub it in our face, this is not a spelling competition and as long as we...

You don't know what went wrong in my relationship, and if she dumped me, it's a good thing cause I was wasting my time with an inflexible taker. A mercenary.

And why you taking her side anyway?...