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Don't sell yourself short!

Some people may not want to date people with children, sure, and there's nothing wrong with that. But you're probably just more worried about that because you do have...

I agree with you Ark, to each his/her own, you have every right to participate in your relationship in a way that makes you comfortable, and, incidentally, your preferences sound similar to mine.
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Agreed.

That's the thing, if 'trust' to one person means not having sex with others, then fine.

And if 'trust' to others means not asking/paying/seeking out others to strip for you and rub...

Huh?! Compared to what I've been getting? Haha, that's nothing! A bit sensitive? Been watching too many of your sappy love movies? You're going to need to Buck Up, Soldier! Toughen up, Man! Lol...
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Yeah, thanks, Sneezy, that is more what I meant:)

Me too! Never been my cup o' tea. (yawn.. ) Action, Sci-Fi, Horror, that's much better! That's such a stereotype.



Yeah, I'd also prefer to be the actual object of desire, rather than merely...

Wow, you completely misunderstood my post. For starters, it wasn't directed towards you at all.

Hmm.. that's funny Chuff. First you labor on about refuting my points, then agree with them. It doesn't seem to me that you have any real point, but just trying to win a little pissing match. Ok,...

I have no desire to do that. But hey Rome, next time your partner wants to go to a male strip club, offer to go with her. In fact, why don't you just suggest it. What's good for the goose...

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Huh... Every movie theater has a back room where the very same actresses who've just finished posing naked and dancing provocatively in front of men who are there without their s/o's, are waiting....

Well you have an opinion. So do a lot of people. You know what they say, everyone's got one.

My opinion is if you like for your man to go to strip clubs then that really is great for you. You...

Geez, I didn't even do that. At least chastise me for saying all men are exactly the same when I actually do!

In some circumstances, this actually might be a good idea, but it also sounds potentially dangerous! For you and your mate!

Edit: I know it's serious-- but it's also kind of funny re: the DV...

I bet if he's talkin' smack a lot of it is that you are supposedly some 'bunny-boiling psycho stalker' (lol).

The best remedy for that kind of smack-talk is to ignore the heck out of him/them!...

Ok, I have to spread the rep apparently but that's exactly what I was going to say.

Just because your friends are poor, that doesn't mean that other men aren't using what money they have to fund these activities, as they are in fact alive and thriving...



You're kind of...

Yeah I wouldn't have a relationship with a guy who likes to go to strip clubs. I think certain guys here have an obvious bias, and are trying to force their *opinion* on the OP. Whereas I don't see...

Just want to add to kitty's posts something along a similar line:

I've observed over my life, that people who advertise themselves as being something, are not. For instance:


People who call...

I think you should give up. He's got you feeling like you need to be a mind reader, and you can't. And he's a little moody. I think you just need to let go of this altogether. Just get into your work...

Hey I have to give you credit for being honest here.

Regarding how he figured it out it's because when when you finally stopped giving him the silent treatment. He found out that you weren't dead...

What trees are worrisome? I just planted seven various ones.

Also I already had a pacific sunset maple. It's in the front yard and I'm worried about that one the most because I heard it might...

Yeah they count but I think you'll have to do it a bit more.

He waited till he heard from you because he wanted to know what happened. Then after he figured out what happened he probably felt...

Factor into that average age of first marriage the divorce rate. I think it's about 50% (?) maybe more.

I know countless people who got married in their late teens/early twenties who've been...

^That was super-deep^ :)

Well I'm sure he was worried about you. He probably didn't know if you'd been kidnapped and murdered on vacation. You hear about that happening to tourists on vacation, look at poor Natalie Holloway....

I said: "you told her that you loved her but weren't in love with her"

You said:


So how is that the other way around? Even if it was how does that make it better? You're playing semantics...

I read your posts. A lot of this other stuff being said by you and her, all the petty annoyances she's claiming, I think is just smoke and mirrors and clouding the issue.

It sounds like she was...

Yes, that's a start at least. I understand not wanting to come off too desperate. But maybe you could slack of on calling him a bit. Once every other day. If this goes on for more than a week total,...

Yeah, right now I'm avoiding some places we used to go. Or places that he might be. Or close to where he lives. Pretty typical during a break-up phase. Also it's probably not a bad idea to avoid...

Next time you call his voicemail, leave him a message that acknowledges that you did the same thing to him for a whole week, and that you don't blame him for giving you pay back, and that you deserve...

Eww! What was he thinking? Takes all kinds, hope your friend scrubbed her eyeballs out really well!

Personality is important. Finding the person attractive, that's important too. But that's all very subjective. I don't want someone who I find physically repugnant. Nor necessarily someone who I...

My bro once told me that he and we have more in common with each other than (with) anyone else. I can see that no one else can possibly understand 'where we're each coming from', both literally and...

Hmm.. Yes, ask her about that 'opposite sex friends' topic, in relation to her male friend, not accusing, just lightheartedly. See how she reacts. Maybe she'll say, "I was wrong! We can be just...

All right Chihuahua are we reading each other's mail lol..

Does your gf's ex boyfriend live at the same house as his sister? I guess I could see how that could make a person a little nervous. It could really be that she's just good friends with the sister....

Good luck, I think you're going to be just fine. I think you'll have better luck meeting guys in real life events. Even without a man though, you are better off to let that one go. No need to be...

Obviously I'm not saying 'little voices' literally JB (I thought that was kind of obvious).

Nor would I advise her that she has no right to ever be jealous as a blanket statement, as that is a...

Not bad for a camera phone. Hmm those fuzzies look a lot like my day lilies did after they'd bloomed. But of course your blooms are blue and different so that's not it.. but I wonder if they're...

I wouldn't.

Have you two met in person?

Either way, like some of the others this guy sounds like an undependable flake to me. It's not a real relationship from what it sounds like, but more of...

Good for you, I'd say you're way better off without that stress in your life. A relationship shouldn't be bringing unnecessary chaos into your life, you sound like a smart lady and you don't need...

Or..

Jealousy is... that little voice in your head telling you that your man is clearly behaving as if his loyalties, time, attention, attraction, and affection is divided between you and another...

Maybe you're so afraid it might happen because of her past and your past experience being cheated on, that you figure 'Well if it's going to happen, might as well get it over with'.

But not...

So then you'd be cool with it if a woman who's been trying to hook up with your man sent him naked pictures and he kept them in a drawer to look at, and had affection for her, just as long as he's...

But this thread is about explicit things (naked pictures), not clothed pictures from a prom, or a vacation. Or are naked pictures not explicit?

Agree with all the others, here. Be glad that you found out about him before marriage. You are indeed better off alone, than always having to wonder if he's trying to have a get together with some...

I don't really think this is about cheating (ie having sex) with Sandy vs. not having sex. You're spending a good deal of time with Sandy, and regularly getting late to your girlfriend's house...

Hard to tell from here, but it looks a bit like a day lily. Do those blooms open up to yellow flowers? My daylilys acted kind of like large dandelions. After the blooms, they become large white puffy...

I wouldn't be too comfortable with any of that.

It could be totally innocent. But you know, when you're in a relationship with someone, I think integrity dictates that your actions should be...

She sounds nice!

Gosh, you've only been broke up a month from a long term relationship and already having sex and staying the night at another girl's house, and also dating another girl too?
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