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    Comment on amalikrunner's post

    "I write on a website everyday for my wife hoping she reads"
    In my eyes, this is STILL considered contact. You are hoping she reads it? What would it change?
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    Comment on amalikrunner's post

    It hepls me too sometimes :)
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    Sorry I thought you were the OP. I still meant...

    Sorry I thought you were the OP. I still meant what I said though runner
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    Dude you are only 21. I didn't get into my first...

    Dude you are only 21. I didn't get into my first serious relationship until I was 23. Sure I dated and messed around but I never thought I would find the right girl. When I met her I thought she was...
  5. Amazing how people change isn't it? Almost seems...

    Amazing how people change isn't it? Almost seems like it happens overnight. You will be fine IF you stick to NC. I had a couple of setbacks in my breakup (mostly because we own a house together) but...
  6. Change your number and don't contact her again....

    Change your number and don't contact her again. It will save you headaches, believe me.
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    40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain |...

    40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain | tinybuddha.com
  8. You have to let her go, she left and probably...

    You have to let her go, she left and probably will not be coming back. That is why it is imperative that you work on yourself and get to know the real you again. Writing a letter is a good idea but...
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    40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain

    This should be a sticky... :D


    40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain
    By Lori Deschene
    Extracted from tinybuddha.com

    Eckhart Tolle believes we create and maintain problems because they give us...
  10. It feels wonderful. It might take me sometime to...

    It feels wonderful. It might take me sometime to rebuild my credit but for the first time, I actually feel free again.
  11. Im letting the house go. Ive been saving up all...

    Im letting the house go. Ive been saving up all that money. My state is behind 2 years on forclosures so who knows what will happen.

    I haven't heard from the ex in quite sometime and Im glad! The...
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    I still have these feelings, almost daily and...

    I still have these feelings, almost daily and it's been 9 months for me. I will say that I have learned to focus on other things immediately after having such thoughts and yes, like you, these...
  13. I have decided to stop making payments and go...

    I have decided to stop making payments and go into foreclosure. About 2 months ago I got her to agree to sign a quit claim deed and she backed out 3 weeks later. I had it done up and sent to her and...
  14. Because the house cannot be physically split in...

    Because the house cannot be physically split in half. She could sue me based on partition and force me to sell. I am told there is no defense for this. I doubt she would do this because she would...
  15. Dang, I guess I made a lot of people angry on...

    Dang, I guess I made a lot of people angry on here. It was just a question. Do relationships like this work?

    No its not my buissness what other people do in the privacy of their homes and maybe I...
  16. There was never a Plan B for this guy. You might...

    There was never a Plan B for this guy. You might have bled because you were not sexually aroused. Drugs and alcohol restrict theses senses. You were dry in a sense and the friction may have caused...
  17. Girl that has a fiancé and wants an intimate encounter

    So I was surfin the web today, on a dating site ,and came across this one persons profile that really threw me for a loop. In the about me section she states this:

    "For my own professional reasons...
  18. Went and saw a real estate attorney on Thursday....

    Went and saw a real estate attorney on Thursday. I can't sue her as we entered into this contract together. Not 50/50, but as a partition. The problem is there is nothing in writing that says she...
  19. Yes, I went and saw a Real estate attorney on...

    Yes, I went and saw a Real estate attorney on Thursday and basically told me all the same things that I had already known. We are stuck. She can technically sue me for partition but it would cost her...
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    Sticky: Emotionally, the stress of a breakup may linger....

    Emotionally, the stress of a breakup may linger. Some important things to remember:


    1.Stay active and try to maintain a balance of a healthy diet with equal amounts of sleep and exercise.

    ...
  21. HAHAHA I Wish! I beat you to it. I was waiting...

    HAHAHA I Wish! I beat you to it. I was waiting for you to say something.
  22. Sticky: Poll: Outstanding!!

    Outstanding!!
  23. Read this: ...

    Read this:

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/guidlines-what-do-do-if-person-like-already-relationship-463250.html
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    What you need to realize is that she dumped you....

    What you need to realize is that she dumped you. When ever I think about how fine my ex was and what a good person she was and all that, I think to myself "SHE DUMPED ME!"

    That's what makes you...
  25. Question: Dilemma

    by Newguy2009
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    Its amazing how we can't see what is right in...

    Its amazing how we can't see what is right in front of us until we take a step back and truly get a grasp on the situation.

    Perspectives change when you think rationally. That's one of the...
  26. So March has passed. What happened?

    So March has passed. What happened?
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    There's nothing wrong with wanting what you can't...

    There's nothing wrong with wanting what you can't have, all I'm saying is that there's billions of people out there. Why go after one that's taken?

    You like her, I get that but it seems like just...
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    Do you respect the fact that she has a boyfriend?...

    Do you respect the fact that she has a boyfriend? I think not! Or you wouldn't be asking this question. That's very selfish as it seems you only care about your happiness.
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    I don't necessarily believe that once a cheater,...

    I don't necessarily believe that once a cheater, always a cheater. He could have really learned his lesson as he lost two women in the process and realized maybe it wasn't worth it.

    My advice to...
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    She's been with her boyfriend 6-8 years? I...

    She's been with her boyfriend 6-8 years? I wouldn't mess with it as she probably won't leave him, and I damn sure wouldn't wait around for them to break up as life will pass you by.

    You flirt, its...
  31. Based on this I think you are initiating NC...

    Based on this I think you are initiating NC thinking you will get her back when you should be doing it to heal. She left you remember? It’s over. I understand the false hope, I’ve been there. You...
  32. Leeave it at that. Its time for to regain your...

    Leeave it at that. Its time for to regain your dignity and she is giving you that opportunity now. You have the power now. So don't slip up again.

    Good luck buddy!
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    That's great to hear my friend! Proof that things...

    That's great to hear my friend! Proof that things get easier with time.
  34. Nice testimony. Glad to hear it Rob. Im happy for...

    Nice testimony. Glad to hear it Rob. Im happy for you!
  35. Tell me about it!I just want it finalized...

    Tell me about it!I just want it finalized already!!
  36. Van, Yes her name is on the mortgage. I cannot...

    Van, Yes her name is on the mortgage. I cannot refinance because I have too much debt. We are upsidedown abouy $25k so I don't want to sell.

    I got some legal advice on base but they do not...
  37. Update... So its been 2 1/2 months since I've...

    Update...

    So its been 2 1/2 months since I've had ANY contact with her and today I get this email from her:

    Hello,
    I know I'm the last person you want to hear from, but I thought that since...
  38. Question: Dilemma

    by Newguy2009
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    There are plenty of women out there that can...

    There are plenty of women out there that can fulfill your sexual needs. Why are you still messing with this one?

    You even said it felt like a chore so it must have not been that good anyway.
  39. Ignore her. She lost your respect when she left....

    Ignore her. She lost your respect when she left.

    She took the dogs. Now they are her responsibility.

    Do NOT contact her EVER! Move on and enjoy a great life with someone else that is willing to...
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    Poll: RS - After reading your original story, I can see...

    RS - After reading your original story, I can see that you are naïve.

    You know this for a fact? You have been to the future?

    NC is not a method to get back together with someone, it's a tool...
  41. You had your window and you missed it. Do I think...

    You had your window and you missed it. Do I think it’s right for her give you a deadline? Not necessarily but 5 years is a long time and you, like myself blew it. Her feelings changed, and although...
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    Haha, that solves that problem, now doesn't it!

    Haha, that solves that problem, now doesn't it!
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    Only if you choose to let those reminders be...

    Only if you choose to let those reminders be constant.

    I personally changed my number, deleted my entire Facebook account, and shoved all her stuff in a closet (she left some personal stuff...
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    You know, I ask myself this question from time to...

    You know, I ask myself this question from time to time but I tell myself it isn't worth analyzing or losing sleep over.

    You still think about things that happened during childhood, don't you?...
  45. Finally got through 18 pages of this saga! It...

    Finally got through 18 pages of this saga! It appears you are doing well. We all have setbacks, it's the self control we have to work on.

    Like I've said before to others. When you think about her,...
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    Not saying that anything is actually going on...

    Not saying that anything is actually going on with her and her male "friend" but I imagine there might be.

    My ex had issues with Instant messenger and Facebook. She was on that crap all the time....
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    You need to follow what your head is telling you....

    You need to follow what your head is telling you. The heart is based on emotions and not facts.

    The fact is that she slept over another guys house and lied about it. What she did / did not do is...
  48. Not true. She wants to be your friend. And you...

    Not true. She wants to be your friend. And you allow yourself to be available whenever she wants you. I understand your pain but you need to move on as what relationship will ever work when one...
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    I met my ex online and we were together for 3...

    I met my ex online and we were together for 3 years. She would drive 9 hours to see me and after about 2 months she moved in with me. They can work but it can be challenging. You have to really get...
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    Look, its been almost a year since you two broke...

    Look, its been almost a year since you two broke up. My guess is that she is being polite and trying to let bygones be bygones. It's a mature thing to do and she may even want to be friends.

    If...
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