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Best not to think about how long this will take because it's not something that will happen overnight. Recovering is a day-to-day thing and it really is up to you how long you want to take to...

Hey buddy, haven't been in the site for a long long time... my ex dumped me 13 months ago.. and I can tell you with certainty that I felt EXACTLY what you describe in your post... the pain seems...

Hi Everyone,

It's been a LONG time since I posted anything on this site. It's been close to 10 months since I last posted on this thread. Why am I doing it now? Well, this morning I received a...

That is great to hear. You might not be out of the woods yet, but the fact that you took all those emotions bravely speak a lot of the position you are in now. From now on, it will be a matter of...

Very true! After two full months of NC I thought I was "over her" and then along comes an email from her to say Hi and see how I was doing and I feel I took a step back by replying. Now I miss her...

Very sweet words from an ex... however, this does nothing for you except RE-ENFORCE the idea of a FRIEND. And this mate, is something you want to stay away from for a long while. Staying close will...

I ve been completely disconnected from this site for more than a month now. Not only have I been busy with work but I needed some time off all this relationship stuff... as I heal ill come back more...

Thanks a lot for your words... and you are perfectly right. I can't change my personality to act like an a**hole to girls. I wrote the stuff above when I was upset more than a month ago.

Today, I...

You should really think about moving away. I don't see it as running away from your problems because there's not much to face. A change like this would mean new friends, new scenery, new life. Think...

REMOVE her from Facebook and any mutual friends that will be likely to post pics or tag her and you might get to see--even If by accident. This is to maintain your sanity.

Now stick to NC,...

Point him to this site so we can tell him to go NC!

Convicted criminal, alcoholic, drug addict, aaand he leaves you for someone else? Do you love yourself? Even respect yourself? LEAVE HIM and ERASE him forever from your life.

Probably best not to...

I think you need to let this one go. She clearly has no idea what she wants and on top of that downgraded you from a boyfriend to a Plan B. You are worth more than this--and she's not seeing it. She...

I think there is no clear definition of what NC is. I believe though, that NC should be what best works for you---without taking your feelings into account. For example, If I where to be contacted by...

I'm sure there are some really good looking guys also right Zeeniee ;)?

More than one of those would probably love to meet you!

Hey ZGuy,
You seem to know what you are doing. The fact that she said "dont contact me" will help you keeping away from calling her... respect her wish. This also applies for msn, Facebook, and...

Buddy, you need to pull back and give her some space. If she's acting like this then something's up. Nothing you can do about it though---Whatever is going on inside her only she can sort it...

There may be many reasons he's acting like this. He might not even know himself. Best thing to do is talk about what may be troubling him. If he says nothing, then just leave it at that. Give him...

She feels guilty because she knows she hurt you unintentionally. This is entirely normal among exes. It shows that she cares about your feelings but that doesn't mean she wants to be with you. In any...

Tell him to join this forum.. then we can all tell him to initiate NC and he can get over you!

I called her princess too! What a way to waste such a sweet nickname. From now on, any girl Im with will have to earn their nicknames ;)

Anyway, I think you shouldn't hate someone for changes in...

If we can rescue anything from this terrible situation it's LEARNING. You, everyone here, and I, are learning tons about ourselves and relationships. All this new wisdom will be very valuable in our...

Based on the info you gave--this isn't headed in the right direction. If there were one or two instances in which he comes into the picture then "ok, fine, he just has a crush but I trust her". But...

After a few weeks of NC the closure will come from within you not her. As your thoughts start shifting from her on to you, your head will clear from emotions--not completely though, but they will...

So do I!

It's not that easy. You need to tell us specifics. Situations that make you think he does and others that make you think he doesn't. IN DETAIL.

Surprise him with some takeaway and while the kid is sleeping you can watch a nice romantic DVD. You don't need anything fancy to have a good valentines. As long as you are together enjoying each...

A nice dinner and a romantic movie is a good start.

Are you drunk? We'd love to help but look at the other threads.. if you don't provide more than a few sentences we can't really help you much--as much as we wanted to.

We can't give you good advice if you don't give us INFORMATION about both of you. You see, people are different and have all sorts of likes and dislikes. Perhaps if you go into a bit more detail we...

Look at other threads in the forum and you will see what detail is. I'm sorry but we can't give you good advice if you don't open up and WRITE!

If you want good advice you probably want to go into a bit more detail. Maybe right more than one sentence? Go into more depth. Don't worry nobody cares who you are here. We only care about helping...

It's really hard when you still have ties to them. It will bother you at first I mean they have their own lives now and are not really worried about what you do, so why should you? It's not a race...

Hi Zeeniee,

Best to try not think about him anymore. I know it's very hard right now. And 9 years are not easy to forget or brush aside. I've been practicing it myself. When the ex comes into my...

Doesn't mean you will never be her friend again. Let yourself move on first. In the future, if you are still interested in her friendship, I'm sure you can get in touch with her. Not before you are...

It's not that you can't be together again but it's highly unlikely if you stay there at her side. She will see you as a friend and nothing more. She will get used to seeing you as a friend and won't...

Things are way too fresh for you to see clearly. Over the coming weeks things will make more sense. Your conclusions will change and that's where the learning begins. And yes, you will trust again,...

I just got off the phone with a good mate of mine and he told me the story of his last relationship (he is now happier than ever with his new love). Without going into too much detail--they were...

The fact that this is a forum on the internet doesn't mean we aren't real people that have feelings. All of us here, kctiger, a la king, arzy, itried, ferrell, 411help, and many others have felt--or...

DUDE! You are in love! And best thing is she seems to be too! I've been there before and it's the best feeling ever. You are in a great place! First of all, enjoy this experience as it's the rarest...

All right, given that you are probably are not going to listen to us... You will slowly transition from the ex-zone to the friend-zone. Not only will you be in the friend-zone but she will also be...

Remove her from AIM and any social sites. The less you know the better--believe me. The longer you go on NC the better you will feel.

I agree, University relationships are hard to maintain. There's too much going on with academic responsibilities, new friends, social activities, etc. On top of that, keeping a relationship healthy...

This is a disaster waiting to happen. You cannot go through with the wedding without first addressing this. You owe it to your fiancée to talk to him and tell him the truth. He will be upset and hurt...

I know what you are saying kctiger... it's just that every time I treat a girl well It backfires... I thought this girl was different cause I treated her this way and in the end she stopped loving...

OK boys, this is not a major update its just a thought. I've been repeating the same advice over and over and stupid me for not following it. STAY AWAY FROM FCK ING FACEBOOK!! I had a few drinks an...

She cheated --for quite sometime-- on you, you took her back, and then she has the nerve to blame you and tell you that you don't trust her anymore?! What did she expect? Geez man!! who cares if she...

Let me get this straight. You want to be with a girl that is cheating her current girlfriend with you?? Why interfere in a relationship? Aren't there enough people out there you can hookup with? What...

Telling the internet? I see it this way. You are telling real live people all over the world with different points of view and many years of combined experience --some that have lived similar...

Hey Arzy,

It's good to know you are hanging in there. You are a good example of the benefits brought by NC.

I think it's very normal to have some angry thoughts. In your case specifically you...