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Yes, you are 100% accurate for all about this. He is indeed vey easy guy, and from the beginning of our relationship (total 13 years, 3 years of dating, 10 years of marriage), I had the strong voice,...

You have a valid point. I guess I have only 2 options. Forgive him or leave him. Staying with him and torturing him is a childish act, and will bring more disasters...

Alty,
Every single word you gave to me here is like you exactly see though my heart. I am so amazed how you could understand me this much... I have goose bumps.

My parents will stay with us...

Things are getting much better since my parents came in. They take care of my kids with love and care, and I feel the peace and balance in the house. Kids are obviously much much happier than before....

You have a valid point. How blind I was. He was quite, and I assumed all was OK. I am learning it in the hardest way.
I simply thought we were committed to each other for our life time, we stand on...

His side story in the counseling

From the beginning, I did not want to take the job and go away from my family at all a year ago. I did not want to buy the house either since it was way over...

Oh, gosh!
The first 30 min in the session, he complained and blames me from the closet space arrangement to the remodeling decision making.

T counselor stopped him and said that "even all that,...

My parents are coming Friday morning, and I am picking them up at the airport.

I just got back from the counseling, but I am very frustrated. It was supposed to be a 45 min session, but the heated conversation lasted for 1.5 hours.
His story - he knows his affair cannot be...

Smoothy, I agree, and thanks for your man's prospective.
Although, I am not sure he created the affair to revenge me because I was nagging. I am still shocked he COULD do such a thing to me, and...

I am sorry. My head is still foggy, and I am not sure what you are trying to tell me here. Can you be clear?

I agree. I accept. I became his nagging mother. I regret I treated him as a bad boy who is always make house room messy, not cleaning up. My fault. I deeply regret.

Sex? I never refused him. I was...

You are 200% right. I should cut her out. Thanks so much for your advice.

she is feeding me all the details word by word, his false promises, sexual details and asked me to revenge him for her....

Why do you think so? Advice please.

I am holding onto this, doulalc. You have no idea how much your word is comforting me.

Day 8. Sunday. 8th day from exactly I found out the betrayal. I got up from my bed, cooked breakfast for...

I am hearing you, talaniman. Thanks for caring about me. I am in the lowest & toughest spot in my life, and mot thinking right now. I hope I can gain some insight and strength soon.

I start to have a stupid idea in my head. What if I just kill myself? I have nothing to lose. I do not have to deal with this humiliation and betrayal, long divorce procedure or single motherhood for...

dualal, I cannot say thank you enough. I agree I do not have to rush, even though I urge to finish this mess and to be alone. Right now, my emotion is extreme from scared, angry, sad, depressed, and...

talaniman, thanks for encouraging me. I called the doctor's cell phone directly just now, and he offered me a special session again. At this time, the doctor wants to see us together Monday night 9...

Smoothy,
I noticed it will be a very expensive to divorce quickly. The lawyer's fee is $350 an hour, requested $6000 in advanced to file the divorce. The lawyer did not know how long it will take...

I met the lawyer. He was very kind and listened all my story. The lawyer told me that since my husband did not respect me, and had the planned affair, he deserves the divorce. He explained the...

Day 4 (Tuesday)
In the morning, a lady from the law office called me to conform the appointment with a lawyer on Wednesday. My heart just sank. "here comes,
i am really moving toward divorce." my...

Agree. I worried about my kids too. They know dad did something very bad, mom is very angry, but do not know any further details behind of the door. I would try stop yelling and violence too. It is...

Oh joypulv,
My heart is aching for you, and I hope you gained back all the pride & self esteem that jerk crushed from you. I can imagine how painful it would be to watch your living in husband was...

Yelling and scream match continued in the evening again... I started because I could not stand his dirty face.

Alty is right. That's why this affair is much more serious and bad. It was not...

Thanks, all. You guys are so kind and wise for me, a total stranger.
Today is Monday, I woke up and cried again hysterically while taking a shower to prepare myself to go to work.
My life and...

Jack/tal.
Thanks for the thoughtful advice, and it really gives me courage and some logical thoughts in my mind in this trauma...

I have chest pain, since I could not sleep at all since...

We have been married for 10 years with 3 kids, and 2 dogs. All was good.
In January 2015, my husband could not get a job in town, so he took a contract job in a different state, 800 miles away.
He...